[quote=John McClane]yeah, i dunno, i seen quite a few men that don't understand men.[/quote]

[quote=Sedai][quote=MovieGal][quote=Mr Minio]Here's a secret: Women don't understand men. Not like other men do.

But yeah, a sincere conversation goes a long way. If I were you, I'd just talk to her about that, whatever that is behind the 'doesn't get me'.[/quote]


In return,  men don't understand women.[/quote]

I don't get this...  ;)

*Hides*[/quote]

[quote=LostInSauce][quote=Mr Minio]The thing is, you kinda... can? Plus, they'll get the hang of you with practice, too.[/quote]
I dunno. I feel like it should just click.[/quote]

[quote=MovieGal][quote=Mr Minio]Here's a secret: Women don't understand men. Not like other men do.

But yeah, a sincere conversation goes a long way. If I were you, I'd just talk to her about that, whatever that is behind the 'doesn't get me'.[/quote]


In return,  men don't understand women.[/quote]

[quote=Mr Minio]The thing is, you kinda... can? Plus, they'll get the hang of you with practice, too.[/quote]

[quote=LostInSauce]Well, if they don't just intuitively get me then...I mean they just don't. I can't give them a manual about me.[/quote]

[quote=Mr Minio]Worst case scenario, you break up... But you're thinking about that already anyway! Now, what if a conversation (or more than one) helps you 'get' each other better? I have this thing that I can be very open in an almost arrogant way. Sort of "here are my thoughts, do with them what you will". I guess I could be more subtle than that, but I never regretted telling the other person what I think. I only regretted not telling them (soon enough).[/quote]

[quote=Mr Minio]Here's a secret: Women don't understand men. Not like other men do.

But yeah, a sincere conversation goes a long way. If I were you, I'd just talk to her about that, whatever that is behind the 'doesn't get me'.[/quote]

[quote=LostInSauce][quote=Mr Minio][quote=LostInSauce]
Not the glowing character she's drawn up in her head, put mildly. But I'm good to her. Always. Sometimes a little demanding. Sometimes a little impatient.[/quote] Quite ambiguous again, which is understandable (you're free to PM me about it if you want!).

From what you're saying this sounds like a... normal relationship? We always have that idealized image of the other person (infatuation) but eventually that image gives way to the real person behind it (love). Unless your girlfriend has the emotional intelligence of a five-year-old, she'll never expect you to be perfect, and she should accept many of your faults, as long as they're not deal breakers for her.

I'd generally advice anybody AGAINST just plain leaving their SO if the SO is "good to them". This means that if there's no "hardcore" stuff like cheating or abuse (including mild manipulation, gaslighting etc.), or some incredible incompatibility (children is a big one), I'd say just go and talk about it. I'd say talk about it even if it's the hardcore stuff.

The problem I see among my friends is that people in relationships don't talk. They think that the other person magically 'gets' them. But it doesn't work that way! Most problems can be solved, most faults overcome/forgiven/improved. But if the couple is unwilling to talk to each other (and would rather just leave the other person), then there's no way of solving the situation.[/quote]
The thing is that while she's good to me, and I do like her and appreciate her, I don't think I can see us being together for the rest of our lives. I've felt understood before. But it's very rare. And she doesn't get me.[/quote]

[quote=Mr Minio][quote=LostInSauce]
Not the glowing character she's drawn up in her head, put mildly. But I'm good to her. Always. Sometimes a little demanding. Sometimes a little impatient.[/quote] Quite ambiguous again, which is understandable (you're free to PM me about it if you want!).

From what you're saying this sounds like a... normal relationship? We always have that idealized image of the other person (infatuation) but eventually that image gives way to the real person behind it (love). Unless your girlfriend has the emotional intelligence of a five-year-old, she'll never expect you to be perfect, and she should accept many of your faults, as long as they're not deal breakers for her.

I'd generally advice anybody AGAINST just plain leaving their SO if the SO is "good to them". This means that if there's no "hardcore" stuff like cheating or abuse (including mild manipulation, gaslighting etc.), or some incredible incompatibility (children is a big one), I'd say just go and talk about it. I'd say talk about it even if it's the hardcore stuff.

The problem I see among my friends is that people in relationships don't talk. They think that the other person magically 'gets' them. But it doesn't work that way! Most problems can be solved, most faults overcome/forgiven/improved. But if the couple is unwilling to talk to each other (and would rather just leave the other person), then there's no way of solving the situation.[/quote]

[quote=John-Connor]'Love' should always be the basis, not if she likes your Steven Seagal movies.. :cool:[/quote]