Originally Posted by SamsoniteDelilah
Adi originally posted that he apologized for everything BUT his argument with me. He edited it to say "wan't", but it was originally "will not apologize".
perhapse i shouldn't speak any more about this subject, let matters be, take the advice of half the people that posted here and just stay clear of you. but i'm a man that likes to get things done properly or not do them at all and i'm certainly not the kind of man that beats arround the bush.
so perhapse you felt my apology was too abstract or evasive ( i don't know where you got that "changed his mind" bit, as yoda said, the changes i made to the post were fairly insiginficant) . i admit, i have had a similar offer from yoda 3 months ago but back then i refused to apologise to you. call it pride or what ever you want. i say it was too soon and i was not in a position to see things as i do now.
so let's adress the matter that started all this, the argument. as i tried to say 3 months ago, my original post about the city of god and your reasons for it not doing so well was constructed very poorly and i now see how you might have felt that it was agressive or fairly insulting. i apologise, i never meant to imply your reasons for it failing were stupid, i simply felt ( as i still do ) that they were not the true reasons for CoG's not-so-brilliant box office results. i disagreed, that's what people do in debates, arguments or discussions. my intent was not to upset you and i was certainly not expecting you to reply the way you did ( i have gone over and over that post and can't help but to wonder what would have been if it were not for that " those are not valid reasons and you know it" part, possibly the worst case of ill chosen words in forum history, but like i said in the original apology, i thought we were on such terms that i could say what ever i wanted without thinking about it twice ). i was very much taken aback by your response and i went on the defense, as did you. and two people on the defense coupled with their unwillingness to back down equals disaster.
second thing i remember you taking an issue with was me stating i hated slovenians even though your friend was a slovenian. this of course isn't how i truly feel. i base judgement on people only when and if i get to know them. i'm sure your friend is a nice person, i'm sure plenty of slovenians are nice people, but what you have to understand is that i've met and have been arround thousands of slovenians, i live in a tourist village, they come here by the thousands, and honest to god, most of the young slovenians i have met are arrogant and unpleasant ( i stress the young part, older slovenians have more wisdom and are friendlier ). our two countries ( on a state level ) do not get along lately because of 3 things: open disputes about our borders ( and constant provocations on the slovenian side ) - this is the biggest issue by far, about millions of dollars stolen from our citizens by the slovenian national bank after the disintergration of Yugoslavia and Slovenia's constant refusal to deal with the matters in a court of law according to european standards. those political issues have transferred to a person to person level and are only escalating. combined with the fact that Slovenia is in the European Union and Slovenians somehow started to feel that makes them better than us ( nevermind the fact that unlike Slovenia, we were fighting a brutal war for 4 years and the last thing on our minds was our economic growth and a EU membership) , it has now come to the fact that we are careful in our relations to say the least and have a tendancy to judge the other party without getting to know them beforehand. i may not like Slovenia as a country, but that doesn't mean i hate slovenians as people.
third thing i remember you calling me out on was the issue of non christians celebrating Christmas. i admit, i was trying to bait you into an argument about it, you didn't take the bait. of course, in reality, i couldn't care less who or why celebrates christmas, everyone has the right to do it and take advantage of that very special time to celebrate life ,if nothing else, and be with their families. i celebrate christmas as a christian, you or someone else might not. certanly not something i would argue about right now.
if you have any other open issues you would like to discuss, i'm more than willing.
you may not have taken my apology as genuine, some other people might not have, but i can assure you it was just that, spoken from the heart. 3 months ago i may have taken my membership on this site too lightly thus behaving carelessly. but i can assure you, much like a child, i was burned and i have now learned my lesson and plan to be a lot more careful and more considerate.
i have argued heatedly with plenty of people over the internet, granted non of it got me banned, and i can tell you that i speak to half of those people now through msn and consider them friends. i believe that i am not a jerk ( although my actions on the internet sometimes say otherwise ), noone who got to know me better feels that way, and i'm a firm believer in the old " if we can just sit down and talk about it like adults, we can resolve anything" adage.
so this is more than a peace offering, this is my offer to wipe the slate clean and start over, you may just find that i'm not as bad as you think i am.