Kira's Reason: A Love Story, 2001
A woman named Kira (Stine Stengrade) has been in a mental health facility for the last two years following some sort of breakdown. As she attempts to return to life with her husband, Mads (Lars Mikkelsen) and their two children, her own demons and the resentments that Lars has been holding onto threaten to derail their reconciliation.
I always hesitate slightly to praise portrayals of mental illness if they aren't something that I am in some way familiar with. But I thought that Stengrade's performance as Kira was pretty exceptional--you see the way that different moods flicker through her (mania, anxiety, fear), and the degree to which she it not in control her her emotions.
The first third of the film focuses heavily on Kira's emotions as she returns home. Her anger and jealousy at discovering that Lars has hired a very pretty young woman to be a housekeeper/nanny. Her desperate need to reconnect with Lars on a physical level. And the way that everyday events can trip her over into a manic episode. A sequence in which Kira loses control while at a swimming pool with her children was painful to watch--especially as the response of the workers at the pool (manhandling her and cornering her) is exactly the wrong thing to do to calm her down.
The middle third focuses on Kira's behavior as she grapples with her new normal. The final third of the film moves into make-it-or-break-it mode as Kira helps Lars to host an important business dinner.
Something that I grappled with as the film went on was trying to understand how I was meant to regard both main characters. In particular, there seemed to be several times where the point of view seemed to be "Hey, these are two people in a lot of pain." But I took some issue with that as the behavior we see from Lars--including
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a sexual assault of Kira in a hotel room
a sexual assault of Kira in a hotel room
--seemed so much worse than anything Kira did. Kira is not in control of her actions, and this causes her a tremendous amount of pain. But Lars does things like
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sleep with Kira's sister, use knowledge of this affair to hurt Kira, slap and push Kira when he is angry with her, the aforementioned rape, and berate her in public
sleep with Kira's sister, use knowledge of this affair to hurt Kira, slap and push Kira when he is angry with her, the aforementioned rape, and berate her in public
. The film seemed to hold out on their reconciliation as a happy ending that the story is aiming for, but Lars was just so gross. It was depressing to see that Kira had no one who was really on her side, even her family.
While I was almost perpetually irritated at the whole domestic situation, I did like a few of the smaller moments in the film, such as when Kira connects with an older man at the business dinner who confides in her that his son is "mad", and Kira knowingly whispers to him "I'm a little bit mad." There is a sequence towards the end where Kira scrawls a letter to Lars on a paper tablecloth and it's a really neat sequence with some memorable lines ("I feel like you miss me even when I'm here").
Maybe it's "unfair", but I really had a hard time seeing Lars' behaviors the way that the film framed them (as symptoms of grief) and not as straight-ahead abuse, and that dinged my enjoyment of the film quite a bit.