Not sure if this is the right place to put this, it's something that's been bothering me for a while now. I'm generally a very social person. I used to have multiple groups of friends from different lines of my life and I would almost always be out and about with friends doing whatever. There would rarely be a night that I would stay in, my social life was that great.
Fast forward to today. I am perfectly aware that life changes and things change between people. I'm now 20 and I feel like my social life, compared to what it used to be, is absolutely ****. Majority of my friends have girlfriends and are practically settled down at the ripe age of 21. I've got a couple single mates, one of which is pretty much my bestfriend, we hang a fair bit but never have anybody else to kick it with due to everybody else sort of disappearing.
I decided that I would stop making massive amounts of efforts of sorts for a good 2-3 months, and in that period I was testing whether or not people still made an effort with me. Well I've dropped off with so many of my friends in the past few months that sometimes they don't even respond to my txt messages or phone calls. My time is generally spent playing cricket, working and at uni. In my downtime I'm barely ever out with friends. The last 4 saturday nights I've had nothing on and I've literally been drinking with older people down at my local sports club to fill the void of not really having a social life. I try to organise things with people, often to no avail. I love going out to bars, clubs and pubs and the like. I used to be out every weekend, nowadays I'm only ever out for special occasions like birthdays. I get a long with people well, have good social skills but I want to have that connection with a group of friends I used to have at this point last year.
I have many friends, but none I am really close with aside from one. I have gotten fairly close with another guy recently, but he's on the verge of getting married and I don't really see a future in the friendship. I am a single guy, frustrated because I feel like I should be making the most out of life instead I'm left most nights feeling frustrated with my lack of social connections. I have major insecurities with women so I think for now getting a girlfriend is out of the equation until I work on these insecurities. To some I probably have a great social life but it doesn't feel adequate enough for me.
Do any of you guys ever feel the same? Sorry for the long, boring, whingey post. Sometimes a forum is the best place to express oneself.
EDIT: I don't think facebook is helping. Seeing everybody out and about gets me even more frustrated. I might take a break from it and see how it effects my mood. I have a lady talking to me right now who I'm pretty sure likes me but all she talks about is how great her social life is and whatnot.
Fast forward to today. I am perfectly aware that life changes and things change between people. I'm now 20 and I feel like my social life, compared to what it used to be, is absolutely ****. Majority of my friends have girlfriends and are practically settled down at the ripe age of 21. I've got a couple single mates, one of which is pretty much my bestfriend, we hang a fair bit but never have anybody else to kick it with due to everybody else sort of disappearing.
I decided that I would stop making massive amounts of efforts of sorts for a good 2-3 months, and in that period I was testing whether or not people still made an effort with me. Well I've dropped off with so many of my friends in the past few months that sometimes they don't even respond to my txt messages or phone calls. My time is generally spent playing cricket, working and at uni. In my downtime I'm barely ever out with friends. The last 4 saturday nights I've had nothing on and I've literally been drinking with older people down at my local sports club to fill the void of not really having a social life. I try to organise things with people, often to no avail. I love going out to bars, clubs and pubs and the like. I used to be out every weekend, nowadays I'm only ever out for special occasions like birthdays. I get a long with people well, have good social skills but I want to have that connection with a group of friends I used to have at this point last year.
I have many friends, but none I am really close with aside from one. I have gotten fairly close with another guy recently, but he's on the verge of getting married and I don't really see a future in the friendship. I am a single guy, frustrated because I feel like I should be making the most out of life instead I'm left most nights feeling frustrated with my lack of social connections. I have major insecurities with women so I think for now getting a girlfriend is out of the equation until I work on these insecurities. To some I probably have a great social life but it doesn't feel adequate enough for me.
Do any of you guys ever feel the same? Sorry for the long, boring, whingey post. Sometimes a forum is the best place to express oneself.
EDIT: I don't think facebook is helping. Seeing everybody out and about gets me even more frustrated. I might take a break from it and see how it effects my mood. I have a lady talking to me right now who I'm pretty sure likes me but all she talks about is how great her social life is and whatnot.