Sooo...I'm Transgender!!

Well, my chance of liver & kidney disease is increased. My chance of stroke and heart disease is also increased. But the doctor said that for someone like me who's young and healthy...it's very unlikely anything bad will happen. If I was a super heavy smoker then it would be more of a concern.

Because at least you're being somewhat supportive in your joking and questions. SC is just being combative for no reason. That's why.

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This is the most confusing post I've had to read since I joined.

is anyone really surprised SC has everything but class?

anyway, i guess i never really put a lot of thought into the hormones you take if you're transgender but now that i'm reading about it, it kinda sounds like similar side effects to birth control pills.

i hope you're feeling good, Kendra.

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Oh wow I had no idea, I was thinking more along the lines of estrogen mucking around with your emotions and stuff, like if it would trick your body into a monthly cycle of the pre menstrual wanna punch you in the head moods.

You "actually care" yet your reaction is to make McClane feel like crap about it? Nice solution. The only people whose opinions matter on what she should or should not do are her, her therapist, and her doctors.

Why don't you let those people speak for themselves if they choose? If Yoda has said something to you in private, then that should remain private. Don't go outing other people. If he has said nothing, then don't go making assumptions about his thoughts and don't assume anything about Omni's thoughts either.

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Hehe...mission accomplished

Matt, I have a question: You mention that, if you were tested, you think your testosterone levels might be low. I know someone who officially has low levels (but not horrendously low -- he's just on medications, etc.), and I see what it does to a man.

Had you considered that perhaps going the route of adding testosterone rather than estrogen might help? It seems a less extreme solution, all things being equal (which I know they're not). This really is just a question that hit me when I read your post about thinking you probably have low testosterone.

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I'm pretty well swamped with site work this week, but I'll just say that MattJohn asked me about this privately awhile ago, and what we said is between us. But I don't think there's any mutual exclusivity between caring about someone and being skeptical of some of their decisions, particularly life-altering ones.

I don't subscribe to the notion that caring about someone means supporting anything they do. Sometimes it means disagreeing with them or asking difficult questions. It would be easier to never contradict, never risk their disapproval, but I don't think that's what caring about someone actually looks like, and it's not how MattJohn and I have ever approached the many things in our lives we've discussed over the years.

I'm well aware of what this place is and what you need to get through your thick skull is that I have just as much right to express my opinions as you do - not only about McClane's decisions and motives but about yours as well.

It's not Sexy Celebrity's Playland, either.

I agree with this entirely, however I think there's a big difference between disagreeing and asking difficult questions and making fun of the person like SC's doing.

kendra, have you seen The Danish Girl and if so what did you think? As a cis woman I found this movie so touching, and felt it was sensitively handled. I saw the PoV of both Lily and Gerda, and empathised with both their journeys. Might have cried...

I know some transgenders [and a full blown hermaphrodite]. One of them is the person who rents the room to one of my best friends, and she got her chance to become externally what she always felt she was internally. She took it, she is **** happy,

I have all the respect and applaud any difficult decision that leads to personal discovery. It's the hardest thing one can go through. It's not just about the sex change, it's the whole **** internal process of life long self-doubt, shame and the feeling of not belonging to one's skin.

Must be really difficult.

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My lady loves that movie. Got to say, the dude played a hell of a difficult role. It's nice to see a man showing sensibility.

I love that movie, Dev. I didn't cry because I was upset. I actually found it an uplifting story. I was horrified by one of the scenes with a doctor, snd the scene in the park with the bullies, but the relationship with the two, and the non judgmental friendship with Lily's childhood friend (yes I do know he was a fictional character), just so beautiful. And just the emotional depiction of the journey for both of them. Plus, it's just such a visually appealing movie.

mate, don't you think it's between patient and medical team, not people sitting behind a keyboard? You and I sorted out our initial prickles but sometimes i think you lack boundaries. I understand the thought of surgical removal of man bits can be very confronting for straight men, but kendra is not you, and you're imposing your feelings of self (which are perfectly fine) onto her. That's a bit unfair. Kendra's journey has no impact on your life, or your penis.

No, that's not all she is to me. But I know she believes that taking estrogen will relieve her problems. It's the first thing that came to my sleep-deprived mind - other than the character John McClane which I didn't think was fitting. Last night, after I'd had some rest and had a clearer mind, I switched the image to the Trans pride symbol she's currently using in her avatar.

I didnt say you couldnt voice your opinion so please dont twist my words. You and camo seem quite fond of this. Either that or you both have a comprehension problem. I said you lack boundaries. It;s your way of speaking to and about kendra as if she's not even in the room I find itchy and scratchy.

so there you go, I have the right to voice my opinion as well. *thumbs up*

Yes it's visually stunning. My wife cried a lot.

Only the person her/himself knows if he/she is ready or not. Sometimes - even having nothing to do with such an important and life changing decision - we make a decision and end up backing away from it. It's ok. It's part of life.

the onbly problem I have with the "everyone is [or not] right for it" is that only the person her/himself can come to that conclusion, even if he/she later regrets it. Imagine that you decide to pull all your teeth out and get a prosthetic [for some reason or another], Who is to say "you are not ready for that"?
Well, as far as I can tell they sure do know more about it than I do. It's their job to know it.
I know [to some degree] where you are coming from. I will not discuss sub-cultural topics. However I will say that if an adult wants to have a sex change because they feel they were born with the wrong body, I see absolutely no fault in that.

But then the question is: what about the early teenagers that are already conscientious of their predicament? Should the parents allow or even suggest such medical intervention?

It's a very tricky situation. The teenager is still developing, and both Infancy and Teen years are the most critical when it comes to personality build up.

It's not hard to imagine all the kids that get beat up at school because they act "different": It's very ***aging to them and later in life they will show it [one way or the other] in their behavior.

You may even say "sure, but kids are awful to each other anyway, no need to go that far", to which I would reply that it must be a lot more tougher when you are fighting your inner self as well. Personality build up is critical for the way an individual sees himself and reacts to outside stimuli [positive and negative].

The other side of the coin is "I know you feel miserable. Sulk it up and be quiet".

Kendra's prerogative is her own. Only she knows what is best for her.

i don't think you should speak for other people (Yoda, Omni), especially if they haven't spoken up themselves. what is said in PM is private, ffs. i also think there is a difference between disagreeing with someone's lifestyle but still being supportive of that person, even WHILE disagreeing with them. if you want to voice concern, ok fine, but be respectful about it. it's you FRIEND, right? they deserve that. but you are controlling, as usual. you are convinced JohnMcClane is completely incapable of making a decision for herself, even though she's explained how much research she's done. because i can guarantee she's done a lot more than you have.


oh, quit acting like you know me so well that you can make such a sweeping assumption. i'm not going to assume you don't care, especially if you tell me you do. i mean, believe whatever you want about what my 'motivations' are if you must (apparently i just wanna be cool and don't actually care about JohnMcClane? lol even though we speak and keep in touch almost daily off of Mofo... but yeah, i must just be keeping that whooole friendship up because i wanna be cool so badly)

also lol @ accusing other people of being cool when your whole persona around here is basically just for attention, you narcissist