I'm lumped into this whole bathroom issue and I'm not even trans, I'm a drag queen.
It's not LGBTD. I don't identify as a woman and I don't belong in the women's bathroom.
But I sure as hell look like a woman when I want to, and an employee of the establishment working as a bathroom attendant kicked me out of the mens room. They forced me into the womens but I understand why since I get a lot of guys hitting on me, it doesn't seem appropriate to have me in there with our dicks out at the urinal.
This is just a theory, and I have nothing to back it up, but it's always seemed that homosexuality itself may be a
type of gender diffusion or identity confusion, at least on some level.
Now, don't get me wrong, homosexuals do not want their genitals removed or to be sex-changed.
But with many couples (not all, but some) they often fall into typified gender-type roles. Why is this?
Some of the couples I know will joke about "who's the man," or who's the woman, or who's the husband, or wife, mother, father, etc. in the relationship. And some of them do begin to act more dominant, submissive, masculine or feminine.
Again, I'm stereotyping - I've also met couples where both parties acted equally masculine, or (with men) where both are equally flamboyant (or even try to "out-flamboy" the other). But commonly, at least in some small ways, in their private lives they tend to adopt more traditional gender-roles, thus imitating their heterosexual, dual-gendered counterparts.
This SEEMS to apply more to couples in long-term, monogamous relationships and becomes more established with time. It also seems to become more apparent if children enter into the relationship & a family is formed.
Is this just a symptom of culturalization or conditioning from the families they grew up in, which will soon die out once traditional family norms are eliminated?
Or is there something "natural" in the model of the male / female couple, that all couples will eventually adapt to and adopt (almost as a biologic compulsion) on some level?