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I don't get hard either/or views. I don't read these comments as a witch hunt to take sides on and defend. I can honestly see blue jokes being offered in some contexts that are not at all unusual, without intent to offend but to be a smart ass for a laugh. There's a gradient there from making a joke off-the-cuff that probably could have best been used on another audience (relatively innocent, if just poor judgment) to full on sexual assault implications. I think we all know our acquaintances and what is appropriate for each circle of friends and colleagues. Sometimes those lines blur and missteps are made due to any number of reasons, depending on your own level of self awareness and ideas of what's socially acceptable or not.
I doubt he meant anything by it in the way it might have been interpreted, but I can absolutely also relate to how someone MIGHT interpret it given that individuals own perspective and experience.
MY point here is that believing she is being truthful does not at the same time mean he must be a liar. He saw it as heads, she as tails. Regardless of their own views on the matter, the coin still exists. Acknowledging that coin's existence and the reality of differing views is not taking sides and does not deserve reactionary postures.
Just strange stuff to me.
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damnit. I always end up quoting myself when I just want to edit it. grrrr. Oh well . I forgot what I was trying to... oh wait!!! It was something about me not knowing or really caring what happened here. I was just commenting on the method of argument and the act of drawing lines in general. Maybe Bush slapped her fanny. Maybe he brushed her elbow and she took it wrong. Don't know. Don't care. Just ramming my observations down everyone's forum throat.
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