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I should probably address some aspersions . I wasn’t the recipient of the blowjob. I’ve known her since her undergraduate days. I have no romantic intentions with her. When we first met, I thought about asking her out until I tried having a real conversation. She just can’t keep up nor is she interesting to talk to. I can’t be witty since she’ll either brush it off or won’t get it. I can’t pursue it otherwise. Our friendship has mostly surrounded my help with her professional obstacles, and her help with my personal issues. This is one of the few instances where I’ve been consulted since I don’t know the bf that well.
I also joined this forum to discuss films since it’s a hobby of mine -- not for other reason,
I hadn't considered loyalty. In my decision since it’s a huge part of my soon-to-be vocation. I value the discretion of my friends and I should demonstrate the same integrity. I can deride her actions and make all my own inferences but it she “may” be undergoing her personal crisis. As with anything, there are multiple considerations which require a personal introspection and compromise. I can’t tell the friend by brushing aside my discretion. If I do, I certainly couldn't expect it from others.
So my decision remains to be silent. I will push her to tell him. Aside from that, I can only hope for personal justice for both of them.
As for those who criticize the fact that I would contemplate remaining friends, imagine if one of your male friends had done it. How many would high five or just dismiss it...
Last edited by blowe46; 05-19-13 at 04:45 PM.