I was in the US Air Force straight out of high school. I was miserable in school, not because of a lack of intellect, but because of a lack of effort and I felt that the military was the only option I had of getting work training/schooling/etc. Plus, this was in the Clinton years so I had nothing to worry about.
So, while my friends all went off to college, I went away to Japan to do TV/Radio broadcasting for the military, just like Robin Williams in Good Morning Vietnam. I made friends there, it was fun, blah blah.
But I always looked forward to coming home and being with, what I thought of at the time, as the only friends that really mattered to me. Four years passed and I found myself home again (St. Louis, MO, for anyone who cares). At first, I found myself back in my stomping grounds with my old friends. I'd hang out with them here and there, nothing like in the high school years, but we'd get together when time allowed. It was tougher than before because by this point I'd had a son and they had found other means of passing the time, mostly pot, which I was never really into.
And then, as time went on,I saw my old friends less and less. I'd reach out, make phone calls, try to hang out with them, but it just wasn't the same. Something had changed.
Maybe we'd just grown apart. Either that or it was me (more likely scenario). None of my school buddies seemed to have trouble hanging out with each other, but I was finding myself less and less involved. Soon it became a thing where I only saw them at the annual St. Patrick's Day party until one of the hosts of the event moved in with his fiance and even that invite dried up.
The last time I saw that crew was over a year ago at a wedding.
Now, I don't know about the rest of you, but I find it near impossible to make friends as an adult. It doesn't help that I've tried finding jobs where I have minimal interaction with people, but even now with a job sitting in a cubicle, I find it hard to not only find people with things in common with me, but to just talk to them with the hopes of hanging out outside of work.
So, I literally have no friends. I have my wife and my three sons, but other than them and my family who I see about every weekend, I have no social interaction.
That's where this place and other like it had come in years ago. At some point I decided that the internet could be my friend. I could post on forums like this and others and fill the void that had existed in myself.
And it worked...kind of.
I've come to realize that it's an empty sort of companionship. I realized that when I looked at the personal pictures thread and saw Yoda and The Rodent and others and I thought "they share at least one passion with me. I could totally see myself hanging out with those people" that this was just daydreaming nonsense. These relationships are nothing more than words on a computer screen, mostly forgotten shortly after the web browser closed.
This is no substitute for what is missing from my life.
So, not that any of you care, I'm leaving. I'm focusing on my children and my pitiful career. I'm going to spend more time reading and writing. I'm going to do things with my family that I've always wanted to do, maybe take that weekend trip to Hannibal that my wife and I always talk about. Then one day take them all to the Grand Canyon like I did when I was a child.
I'm done with the internet. I may lurk here and there, especially over the next few days, but I've just been fooling myself into believing there was a point to all of this. There wasn't. A virtual life is still just virtual and my self imposed exile has brought me nothing but deep loneliness.
I'll leave you with some words from one of my favorite songs. It reminds me of my life of late.
Oh, but it's over now or has it just begun?
You're still bound by your stupid rules
And all your friends are outside, the clouds in the sky
And they're hoping you'll be there soon
You wanna feel the wave
See the tide
And stare at the big blue sky
You wanna see the sun
And the moon
And to your rules goodbye
You wanna feel the wave
With your eyes
To see outside again
You wanna feel alive
Feel alive
So, while my friends all went off to college, I went away to Japan to do TV/Radio broadcasting for the military, just like Robin Williams in Good Morning Vietnam. I made friends there, it was fun, blah blah.
But I always looked forward to coming home and being with, what I thought of at the time, as the only friends that really mattered to me. Four years passed and I found myself home again (St. Louis, MO, for anyone who cares). At first, I found myself back in my stomping grounds with my old friends. I'd hang out with them here and there, nothing like in the high school years, but we'd get together when time allowed. It was tougher than before because by this point I'd had a son and they had found other means of passing the time, mostly pot, which I was never really into.
And then, as time went on,I saw my old friends less and less. I'd reach out, make phone calls, try to hang out with them, but it just wasn't the same. Something had changed.
Maybe we'd just grown apart. Either that or it was me (more likely scenario). None of my school buddies seemed to have trouble hanging out with each other, but I was finding myself less and less involved. Soon it became a thing where I only saw them at the annual St. Patrick's Day party until one of the hosts of the event moved in with his fiance and even that invite dried up.
The last time I saw that crew was over a year ago at a wedding.
Now, I don't know about the rest of you, but I find it near impossible to make friends as an adult. It doesn't help that I've tried finding jobs where I have minimal interaction with people, but even now with a job sitting in a cubicle, I find it hard to not only find people with things in common with me, but to just talk to them with the hopes of hanging out outside of work.
So, I literally have no friends. I have my wife and my three sons, but other than them and my family who I see about every weekend, I have no social interaction.
That's where this place and other like it had come in years ago. At some point I decided that the internet could be my friend. I could post on forums like this and others and fill the void that had existed in myself.
And it worked...kind of.
I've come to realize that it's an empty sort of companionship. I realized that when I looked at the personal pictures thread and saw Yoda and The Rodent and others and I thought "they share at least one passion with me. I could totally see myself hanging out with those people" that this was just daydreaming nonsense. These relationships are nothing more than words on a computer screen, mostly forgotten shortly after the web browser closed.
This is no substitute for what is missing from my life.
So, not that any of you care, I'm leaving. I'm focusing on my children and my pitiful career. I'm going to spend more time reading and writing. I'm going to do things with my family that I've always wanted to do, maybe take that weekend trip to Hannibal that my wife and I always talk about. Then one day take them all to the Grand Canyon like I did when I was a child.
I'm done with the internet. I may lurk here and there, especially over the next few days, but I've just been fooling myself into believing there was a point to all of this. There wasn't. A virtual life is still just virtual and my self imposed exile has brought me nothing but deep loneliness.
I'll leave you with some words from one of my favorite songs. It reminds me of my life of late.
Oh, but it's over now or has it just begun?
You're still bound by your stupid rules
And all your friends are outside, the clouds in the sky
And they're hoping you'll be there soon
You wanna feel the wave
See the tide
And stare at the big blue sky
You wanna see the sun
And the moon
And to your rules goodbye
You wanna feel the wave
With your eyes
To see outside again
You wanna feel alive
Feel alive
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