One thing I wanted to ask about Die Hard, why does John make such a big deal that the company wanted his wife to use her maiden name, because it's a Japanese tradition? Was this just a really big deal to Western culture back then?
Still is a big deal today tbh.
Holly gets cut off during the convo by John losing his cool.
She was going to explain that the Japanese company, with a woman who is married but separated from her husband, is against traditional Japanese ways.
John cuts her off though saying "But you
are married, Holly, you're married to me!"
Then that woman walks into the room and stops the conversation dead anyway before it can get into a full blown fight.
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See, John feels Holly should carry his name because they're married. And he sees her career as a blight against the marriage, and maybe toward the welfare of the children.
He's pissed that she's bending to her job by dropping his name.
Holly obviously loves the kids, but favours her career as a means to secure the future, but she also she knows John just wants her to stay at home and be in the kitchen and raise the kids while he works.
This all causes friction between them.
So basically, Holly going full on career with a Nanny to take care of the kids not only pisses John off... but it rubs salt in his imagined wound for her to drop his name as well even though they're still married.