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This is a stupid question (I'm embarrassed by all this, but it's like all the cards are on the table so what the hell?)
When should I tell my mother & brother about this eviction situation?
My mom's just been freaking since my dad's passing about her increasingly limited financial situation, trying to get all their finances in order, how there's no room in her house and she needs to get rid of stuff. (I interpret this mostly as part of the grieving process - some people don't want to get rid of any of their deceased spouse's things, some want to build a shrine to them, some want to leave things exactly as they were as if the person is still alive, and some want to clean things out to get rid of all the reminders - especially all the painful ones, like medical supplies & such.)
As I've explained, my brother is bi-polar and will freak! He's constantly freaking, but this change would be a major freak.
So, I haven't had the heart or guts to tell them yet (which is bad since it looks like moving into their house for a while is my only alternative and they have a right to as much advanced notice if I'm going to infringe on their space). I have to add, my mom secretly wants me home because she needs help and my brother (who she treats like a child because that's the level of his emotional maturity and capability he demonstrates) has been such an extreme negative presence.
Now, my mom is planning an Easter dinner since her sister and some relatives are coming and bringing food (my mom has a history that if company comes - even if they say they'll bring & do everything now that my mom's elderly & crippled - she still freaks and goes into a panic of cleaning & food preparation - which is happening now - and causing my brother to go into another mental-illness spiral. I was there all day today - did more grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry, etc.)
It seems like a bad time to break the news, so here's the question: tell them before Easter and potentially fill them with more stress and insanity?
Tell them during Easter dinner hoping the relatives might serve as some sort of buffer (maybe they could help put a positive spin on the news - or, they might cause even greater freak out and panic!)
Tell them after Easter dinner, during desert, after the relatives leave?
Don't mention it until next week after Easter.