Hey mofo people! I've been kind of missing for a few months or so........well I have no idea how long really and yeah my life has been in a bit of blender (and not the fruity yummy kind). I need some advice about a tricky situation and as these kinds of things always seem to go it involves a member of the opposite sex (in case u don't know me I'm a guy ). Basically I've been friends with her for about 2 years but she deferred her uni course this semester to work. So I started inviting her to stuff with my mates and we've been getting quite close. I actually started believing that I might be in love........cause yea I've been a bit silly in relationship decisions and I've been waiting for the right person and for some reasons yet for me to realise she seemed perfect.
So yep I thought she was 'the one' and I reckon she had some idea about what I was thinking, seeing as I kept taking the time to talk to her about her worries, spend most of my time around her when we go out and always give her massive hugs whenever I see her. The troubling part of this story is that over time I've realised she's a little.........well.......unstable. There's some hints of depression and I know certain friends of hers have really hurt her. I know that if we went out there could be some degree of me being the knight in shining armour (i've had a bit of experience in this and it always ends up bad, especially with a lot of her friends not around I could be the only one there for her. This could make her dependent on me......which isn't right).
I just need to look at my mum and I see a whole person, who is complete in and of herself and complements my dad in every way. I know this sounds a bit crazy but even though I really really like her I want to back off.........at least I think I do, but I don't know how . I know I've been sending the wrong signals lately and just can't stop cause that's how I relate to her. What can I do to stop the spiral? (for want of a better word). Should I spend less time with her? Not call her unless it's something specific? Should I keep trying to talk her out of going away to France for 6 months? I almost need to work out how to just be friends again. Can anyone help me?
Joel
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So yep I thought she was 'the one' and I reckon she had some idea about what I was thinking, seeing as I kept taking the time to talk to her about her worries, spend most of my time around her when we go out and always give her massive hugs whenever I see her. The troubling part of this story is that over time I've realised she's a little.........well.......unstable. There's some hints of depression and I know certain friends of hers have really hurt her. I know that if we went out there could be some degree of me being the knight in shining armour (i've had a bit of experience in this and it always ends up bad, especially with a lot of her friends not around I could be the only one there for her. This could make her dependent on me......which isn't right).
I just need to look at my mum and I see a whole person, who is complete in and of herself and complements my dad in every way. I know this sounds a bit crazy but even though I really really like her I want to back off.........at least I think I do, but I don't know how . I know I've been sending the wrong signals lately and just can't stop cause that's how I relate to her. What can I do to stop the spiral? (for want of a better word). Should I spend less time with her? Not call her unless it's something specific? Should I keep trying to talk her out of going away to France for 6 months? I almost need to work out how to just be friends again. Can anyone help me?
Joel
*woot 1000th post!