Originally Posted by ash_is_the_gal
adi, when i say shun, i'm not talking about welcoming someone when they post a thread like this, im just talking about being treated as an outsider. almost all other Forums i have been to, there is such a clique of people that it makes it impossible to add your own imput or contribution and have it mean anything without a huge struggle...Mofo isn't like that. are there cliques? oh sure...but this place is always open to new people, i have never met such a welcoming bunch as i have on here.
sure, having to "prove your own worth" can be a good thing...but if you treat people standoffish or as second best all the time simply because they are a little wet behind the ears isn't going to do anything but make that person feel discouraged and less likely to want to come back...
wow...well maybe you had the completely opposite experience with this forum, but that's exactly how it went down for me. i was treated like an outsider for a very long time, i would say much longer than on any other forum i've been on, and even though i hate to drag this up again, in my mind, people only took notice of me after that nasty fight i had with sammy and the subsequent dramatic exit and return. up until that point it was fairly difficult to get anyone to talk to me or comment on my posts.
i've expressed this opinion in another thread several months ago, and got attacked for saying it, people said they were extra friendly to me and i was nothing but an ass . i may have been one, but apart from the standard generic welcome in my intro thread, people were NOT very friendly. i said it before, i'll say it again, there are definitely cliques here into which others are not allowed....i just put it down to the age difference ( most of the respected members here are over 30 ) and moved on. i've stopped expecting any kind of more personalized contact here and am perfectly content with just talking about films and getting SOME respect from certain members about my views on them. i'm used to a very different kind of communication, and i expected the same here....but it was not to be. like i say, i put it down to demographics.
Originally Posted by ash_is_the_gal
this is where i disagree wholeheartedly. im not saying that people that type and speak like a four year old don't get on my nerves, but there are technecalities that have to be put into perspective. certainly "ripping someone apart" is not the right thing to do over something as irrelevant as grammar, no matter how annoying it can be. if i ever have a problem with someone that makes me red enough to actually want to "rip them apart" i would always take it to a PM. publicly humiliating and ripping into them only proves a few things about your own self, not them.
sorry, i was actually speaking about my experiences on my music forum, that kind of stuff doesn't happen here ( for some reason, this forum does not attract a slew of 12 year olds or morons ) nor would i do it here. i've learned to behave very differently on this forum. the end result being , i have a little less than 1000 posts here, and more than 3700 posts on my music forum, and i joined both forums approximately at the same time ( maybe a few weeks apart ).
so my conclusion is, if you're not uber intelligent and eloquent ( or uber humorous even ) with an exceptional knowledge of films, you're not going to get noticed very soon.