Im sorry Eq. You can do much better. (And I've never considered myself vain before.)
Now, if she were drop dead gorgeous and you were really ugly (or very old), one could understand you accepting her dalliances with good nature, simply because you were so grateful for her attention, however transient it may be. However,
1) You arent old;
2) You arent ulgy (I assume); and
3) She's average.
I do not consider myself vain or unrealistic, nor do I know myself to have higher-than-normal-standards, look-wise. THIS is not a trophy woman - this is a woman one would be with because one loves her, or because she has clearly demonstrated moral decay (read: willing and ready to have sex, real soon. show me the money, baby!).
There is nothing wrong with liking, loving, or even marrying an average or unnattractive person. One would only hope they like/love you back!
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Now before you rip my head off, understand that (1) I know a girl that dates a mob guy that is in his 60s. The man bought her a condo, a car, flies here hither and yon exotic location for etc., etc.
She is considered incredibly gorgeous in the circle I am currently in, and even when she was around I couldnt stand her company. I dont even find her flawless (she IS flawed in appearance), but she looks better than average or at least in the running with good looking people. She is incredibly vain, shallow, self-centered, selfish, petty and even viciously mean to others in observation and commentary. I avoided her presence, because I cant bear people who are pitilessly cruel to others, and without provocation.
I pity her. Why? Because she cries herself to sleep at night, and if you get her drunk enough - she is my age, likes guys our age, wants to have a family and a life, but that man owns her. Unless he dies, or finds a younger model, she's not going anywhere.
And now? Another nicer chick who I know, who is also a looker, albeit much kinder, is being propositioned by a 60 year old doctor and although she's been telling him NO for months, suddenly she is strongly considering just giving in for monetary reasons. It is the dumbest thing I have ever heard, and I and some of the guys have been trying to talk sense to her - this is not a scenario you can escape unscathed!
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Bottom line: its like my sainted old aunt says: old men know the younger woman will dally because they are old: they are buying the illusion of youth and vitality.
I imaging the same type of adage holds true for ulgy men, who are instead buying beauty.
If you (plural "you" to general audience!) are not old, nor ugly, what are you buying?
Now, if she were drop dead gorgeous and you were really ugly (or very old), one could understand you accepting her dalliances with good nature, simply because you were so grateful for her attention, however transient it may be. However,
1) You arent old;
2) You arent ulgy (I assume); and
3) She's average.
I do not consider myself vain or unrealistic, nor do I know myself to have higher-than-normal-standards, look-wise. THIS is not a trophy woman - this is a woman one would be with because one loves her, or because she has clearly demonstrated moral decay (read: willing and ready to have sex, real soon. show me the money, baby!).
There is nothing wrong with liking, loving, or even marrying an average or unnattractive person. One would only hope they like/love you back!
______________
Now before you rip my head off, understand that (1) I know a girl that dates a mob guy that is in his 60s. The man bought her a condo, a car, flies here hither and yon exotic location for etc., etc.
She is considered incredibly gorgeous in the circle I am currently in, and even when she was around I couldnt stand her company. I dont even find her flawless (she IS flawed in appearance), but she looks better than average or at least in the running with good looking people. She is incredibly vain, shallow, self-centered, selfish, petty and even viciously mean to others in observation and commentary. I avoided her presence, because I cant bear people who are pitilessly cruel to others, and without provocation.
I pity her. Why? Because she cries herself to sleep at night, and if you get her drunk enough - she is my age, likes guys our age, wants to have a family and a life, but that man owns her. Unless he dies, or finds a younger model, she's not going anywhere.
And now? Another nicer chick who I know, who is also a looker, albeit much kinder, is being propositioned by a 60 year old doctor and although she's been telling him NO for months, suddenly she is strongly considering just giving in for monetary reasons. It is the dumbest thing I have ever heard, and I and some of the guys have been trying to talk sense to her - this is not a scenario you can escape unscathed!
_______________
Bottom line: its like my sainted old aunt says: old men know the younger woman will dally because they are old: they are buying the illusion of youth and vitality.
I imaging the same type of adage holds true for ulgy men, who are instead buying beauty.
If you (plural "you" to general audience!) are not old, nor ugly, what are you buying?
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something witty goes here......
something witty goes here......
Last edited by mack; 04-02-06 at 01:52 AM.