It never ceases to amaze me how much power easily offended folks give to a word.
i don't know, maybe it's because i'm not a parent, but i just don't see the big deal. well, let me phrase that better: it is a big deal, but it's also none of my business. no, i doubt i'd let any kid my mine walk around saying words like that, but it's up to the parent of that 11-year-old to decide, and no one else.
i wouldn't let my kid say the word, but then again, i also probably would not be encouraging my kid to become a child actor. but that's another issue entirely.
i usually find the ruckus that surrounds stories like these to be way more offensive than the stories themselves.