This is Us


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Agree with you on most stuff, as usual.

I don't have a problem with her mom calling her "Bethany." Yoda's sibs and Yoda himself all use "Chris" to identify him, but I, as his mommy, still call him Christopher most of the time. It's partly just a mommy thing, I think, harking back to when you're choosing baby names. At least I don't use his middle name much.

I thought it was odd that Beth never came out and mentioned to Tess that the rules just have to be the same for both her and Deja, which was part of the main point of her going upstairs to check on them in the first place: the door being shut.

I too thought the wigs were terrible, especially Miguel's. Jack--was that really a wig or just shorter hair on the actor? His wasn't as bad, if it was a wig.

See, I thought Kate redeemed herself at her job by helping that girl identify with My Fair Lady. I'm not sure if the instructor will just be the main source of tension for Kate at this job or if it's really a signal that she won't last long (coupled with being away from the kids). Or maybe they're just going to eventually find Toby another job and then they can write Kate back into a home-mom position for a while. I did chuckle at his admission that he really doesn't want to spend ten hours a day with them. Heck, I had four kids and was a single mom for a while: I HEAR YA, TOBY.

And even if he and Madison hadn't had much in common before, THEY DO NOW. I think they'd both grab at the chance to have a familiar person to talk to at the playground, or anywhere. When you have infants, just having another adult to talk to is pure gold. The only thing I found odd about that was that, since they've both been grafted into the Pearson family, they weren't talking mainly about THAT. Also, I have a handful of friends who've had twins. There is NO WAY that either Madison or Kevin would routinely look that "together," or look that well rested, or still have a sense of humor at all with new twins. Sure, we heard about a nanny, but we rarely see her. IS there still a nanny? Is she there overnight? I assume not. I'm rambling.

I guess with Randall they're shifting his issues. Now that he apparently has resolved his issues with his birth parents (tied up in a neat little bow, in some respects), they're exploring his childhood issues being raised in a white family. That's fine, and it makes sense. (And I felt terrible hearing that Asian man's story of living with white Jewish parents.) But it's convenient that we're moving from Randall's birth parent issues to his adoptive parent issues, with little overlap. I suspect in real life a person would likely struggle under the surface with both sets of problems for a long time, if not their whole life.

I dunno. Sometimes I think the writers for this show have a laundry list of Hot Topics We Need to Address, and that they check off the boxes as they write:

__ Gender issues
__ Pronouns
__ Masks
__ Racial tension

I'm waiting for an episode where they mention the Suez Canal.

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Also, wasn't it Madison who "found" this playground? Why is she taking newborn twins to a playground? Anyone who's had even ONE kid that young knows that it's a major production to get them all ready, get them dressed, get the "gear" and the stroller into the car (or out the door if you're completely walking there and back), and then have to deal with feedings, diapers, and fussiness the whole time you're out. And I didn't see the nanny anywhere to help her. I'm assuming the only reason they have to be at a playground is for toddler Jack to play. But he's blind, so why isn't Toby helping him/keeping an eye on him more? That whole scene felt contrived in terms of *location* for me more so than dialogue.

Your reasons for the contrivance of that scene are a lot more practical than just felt like they were trying to invent this instant relationship between Madison and Toby.

It's beginning to look like Kate is not going to last long on this new job and it's too bad because this job would have been really good for her. Hate her new boss and the actor playing him...hated him on Modern Family and am already hating him here.
Isn't the guy who plays Kate's boss the same guy who plays Jamie on "A Million Little Things"? I haven't seen him in anything else, but I like him as Jamie.
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Meanwhile, I'm over here finding it humorous since the guy in This Is Us was wearing a mask during all of his onscreen time so I have NO idea who he is!

Isn't the guy who plays Kate's boss the same guy who plays Jamie on "A Million Little Things"? I haven't seen him in anything else, but I like him as Jamie.
I thought it was the guy who played Alex's teacher on Modern Family who fell for Haley, but maybe I'm wrong.
I've never seen "Modern Family", so I don't know who played Alex's teacher. We might be talking about the same actor.

Do you still watch "A Million Little Things"? I think it's as good as "This Is Us". (It might even be better.)

Meanwhile, I'm over here finding it humorous since the guy in This Is Us was wearing a mask during all of his onscreen time so I have NO idea who he is!
Jamie on "A Million Little Things" is played by Chris Geere. Here's a picture of him without a mask:

Loved the specificity of ep 13, zeroing right in on the relationship between Kevin and Randall. Wasn't thrilled the way it started introducing a never before seen character, even if it was supposed to be an imaginary William. Loved the casting of Brandon Victor Dixon in the role, who was so impressive in the John Legend production of Jesus Christ Superstar, though it still seemed an odd way to open the episode. That opening scene between Justin and Sterling was excellent, even if it did punch me in the gut a little. Kevin's sincerity was genuine,. but I got the impression that no matter what he would have said, Randall wouldn't have been happy with it and wouldn't give Kevin a clue about what would have mended their fences. As a black man who was raised around white people my entire life, I understand a lot of Randall's issues, but he was way too hard on Kevin. It was almost as if Randall didn't really know what he wanted from Kevin. Despite all of that, I will say that that Sterling and Justin did the strongest work together on this episode that they've ever done. Did love the idea of Kevin and Randall getting locked out of the house as opposed to getting locked inside somewhere. That scene of college Kevin and Randall in the cab was superb and Kevin losing his keys was a perfect connection to the grown brothers. Didn't see that coming at all. Didn't really care for the whole Jack/Mister Rogers part of the story because I really didn't like the boys playing Kevin and Randall, but maybe that's just me, but still a rock solid episode. I love this stupid show.

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It was definitely a solid episode, and as a white woman over here, I wasn't sure how to react to the conversation between Kevin and Randall. If I try really hard to be objective about how people should behave when another person is trying to sincerely apologize (even if they still don't "get" the reason you're upset), I think I would be more understanding than Randall was being in that conversation.

At some point I think he would just have to understand that Kevin is never going to be able to truly EMPATHIZE with him. The best he can do, as a white man raised in his biological white family, is to SYMPATHIZE. And Randall is just going to have to accept Kevin's sincerity and desire to mend the relationship and not let his inherent inability to walk in Randall's shoes hinder their relationship going forward.

I would say you could substitute any number of issues for the racial one here and still come out with similar results: one party unable to fully grasp the other's problem, despite WANTING to, and the other party eventually realizing that and finding another way to let it go and deal with it. I would hope that Randall's transracial adoptee support group would help him with that: coming to terms with his family's inability to truly fathom what it must be like for him. I just don't think that's something Randall can continue to expect from Kevin.

At some point, I think this show is going to run out of ways to milk this topic out of these two particular characters. Many of us have had traumatic things happen to us in our younger years. And frankly, the way we move forward is to work through them and then, well, move forward.

If Randall doesn't feel that Kevin is racist--which he said clearly in this episode--then he's going to have to let some of that bitterness go for good. My two cents on that.