Hmm. For the most part, I do believe that people know this about themselves. But then again, my usual refrain example: I felt that way about Breaking Bad and years later, that is probably the best thing I’ve ever seen & pretty much my favourite piece of cinema ever. To my mind, it doesn’t have a single flaw. And yet when my ex tried to coax me into watching it, saying he knew for a fact that I would love it, I resisted. Guess what, he’s totally won that round.
I mean, that is of course fair enough. But do you not think that in itself is a rather superficial way of judging whether something is intriguing (“good”, worthy of experiencing)? You won’t know until you’ve seen it. Hidden gems are discovered when you give them a try, after all. You can’t know if you like gin if you’ve never tried it.
I don’t actually know of anyone who doesn’t like that film (i.e. finds it “bad”). It doesn’t have to be anyone’s favourite, but it is up there with the best films ever made. Well, this is of course where one gets bogged down in the conversation on what constitutes a great film.
I find Marnie very subpar. VERY. It would not crack a top 250 for me, and possibly not even a top 500.
Everything is relative.
But I do think sexual abuse has to be distinguished from other forms of exerting psychological pressure. Hitchcock didn’t rape Hedren (that we know of). In her biography, she has said he “grabbed and attempted to kiss her”. Attempted!
Again, I am ready to be crucified, maybe I’m a horrible old fashioned person, but to me that is NOT sexual assault (in fact it’s just a tad insulting to real rape survivors).
But I do think sexual abuse has to be distinguished from other forms of exerting psychological pressure. Hitchcock didn’t rape Hedren (that we know of). In her biography, she has said he “grabbed and attempted to kiss her”. Attempted!
Again, I am ready to be crucified, maybe I’m a horrible old fashioned person, but to me that is NOT sexual assault (in fact it’s just a tad insulting to real rape survivors).
Yes, sexual assault is a spectrum and there are more and less severe forms, but it's a really slippery slope to start saying that one counts and the other doesn't. And the phrase "real rape" is incredibly insulting to people who have experienced assault that didn't necessarily involve intercourse.
Minimizing experiences as not being "real" just because a more extreme form of abuse exists is exactly how abuses get perpetuated.
I would never in a million years describe this situation as anything comparable to a sexual assault, and no, that is not because I am in denial or have PTSD, it’s because I’m an adult.
I’m sure Hedren could have caused an even bigger scene than she did and walked out/off set/quit the production altogether, but she didn’t. Because she wanted to be known as a Hitch blonde.
Yes, Hitch was a bully. But he was also a genius. He was trying to implement his vision. To me that supersedes pretty much anything, that’s just how I feel.
That’s probably true. But again, this is a slightly utopian scenario. And why do you assume the actor/actress is always vulnerable and the director in charge?
And is it really all that utopian? Jim Cummings makes weird, uncomfortable movies but it sounds like he manages to do it without violating personal boundaries. He talked in an interview about The Beta Test about their use of an intimacy coordinator and the communication between the actors involved in the more intense scenes. I think that plenty of great films have been made without the unwanted harassment or torment of the actors involved. Like, their job is to act. The guy who was the cop in Reservoir Dogs wasn't actually being tortured he was, as per his job, really good at pretending!
The “advocacy and protection” point reminds me of extra time allocated to “disadvantaged” pupils during exams. I’m sure you’re familiar with that topic. So is this a fair trade off to you? That the one child who didn’t bull**** anyone or pretend vulnerable is cornered by cheaters because the system promotes “advocacy and protection”?
Having administered MANY standardized tests, it is really rare to get a student who doesn't finish in the allotted time (because the test is timed to be 1.5 the amount of time a typical child needs). It's true that wealthy families are more assertive about getting accommodations for their children, but let's be real: rich people have a lot of ways of gaming the educational system to get outcomes for their kids that those kids haven't really earned. Pretending that without accommodations education is a level playing field is a joke. There is not a single child in my classroom suffering because of the accommodations that my 6 (SIX!!!) students with disabilities receive.
Understand if you think it’s irrelevant, but to me it shows that this obsession with making adjustments means we lose focus when it comes to what really matters.
So you would rather not have any of this art or the record-smashing Olympic team? I don’t know.