Margo didn’t leave because “But the thought of what it would take to stop what she had set in motion was overwhelming; it would require an amount of tact and gentleness that she felt was impossible to summon.” Been there, done that. Or, rather, not done that. I always found it easier just to get it over with & never see the man again. Many men are very bad in bed. That’s my experience. One never knows what one is going to get.
Maybe the author has never had “good sex”. Perhaps this is not her fault. Some women never orgasm. Some women never orgasm with a man. If you have multiple orgasms (I never have) well, good for you! I much prefer a story like this rather than one where a couple meets cute & has mind-blowing sex on their first date accompanied by simultaneous orgasms.
I found the story very believable. Uncomfortably so as I’ve been there, done that.
This is one helluva thread. 😎
I hope you’re serious (rather than this being irony). I’m enjoying it for sure, no offence meant to anyone.
I agree that this
where a couple meets cute & has mind-blowing sex on their first date accompanied by simultaneous orgasms.
sounds like a ****ty story.
But can there not be a middle ground?! Someone has liked someone for some time, they never flirted because x, but when they get together by chance, the buildup of lust leads to great sex - what’s wrong with that? Palahniuk’s
Choke is excellent at portraying great sex (barring Gwen) happening between strangers spontaneously because they attend the same therapy group - most of these scenes I find very hot and perfectly believable, and the sex is mostly enjoyed by all parties (barring the Gwen bit). You can have “believable” sex scenes where someone experiences a mishap but people continue foreplay and eventually everything is fine.
Sadie (2018) has a great scene where the mother says she “didn’t wax” (she is played by Melanie Lynskey so her body is not Victoria’s Secret standard), her partner laughs at that, yet we are shown they have great,
real, passionate and pleasurable sex and strike up a relationship. No unrealistic Hollywood bodies here, but it is not a negative portrayal!
And I am not judging anyone irl (Margo is after all a fictional character). I am not saying anything is anyone’s fault. In many ways, I do appreciate the path-of-least-resistance way of life, been there, done that, as you say. Just not in bed.
It always freaks me out how these things get personal. I have seen a lot of “bad” things in my life, but, alas, sex has always been good… I had an incredibly debilitating breathing condition throughout my youth and childhood. I came into official “adulthood” just as I was set free from that via surgery. That kind of start to life gives a whole new meaning to “self-care”. I was brought up to ask for what I wanted and not swallow any more discomfort. I never settled for anything in sex. I chose my first lovers very carefully (still do & have a low body count). If I didn’t like anything at all, I would cut it off and go home, just like that. As I said, I’ve only left once or twice once it was already underway, but I had left beforehand many times if I felt I no longer liked the guy now that sex was imminent. Gets coat, adios. I just couldn’t give my body anything less than great after what it had survived.
In terms Hollywood’s “realistic/unrealistic” acrobatics etc, I had done decades of ballet & yoga and whatnot, even before my surgery, I am extremely flexible and do pole dancing now, so I did actually perform Hollywood-worthy acrobatic stunts with my first boyfriend and many others… It doesn’t make that much of a difference and a sex swing doesn’t lead to better quality of sex per se, but when I read in the cliches thread about sex against the wall being “unrealistic”, I am bewildered.
I am quite introverted, likely permanently emotionally damaged and a misanthrope and I don’t trust people, but when it comes to sex, I have never faked anything, I have always been eager to learn and all my lovers (I have had relatively few) knew and cared about how to give me pleasure. Given the surreal amount of **** I have lived through health-wise, I believe I more than deserve it.
Have had plenty a candid conversation with my mother, an ex-model in Soviet Russia who’s done a lot of erotic shots, and she rates her sex life as extremely happy and fulfilling, full of orgasms and very creative things occurring up until now. I know at least 4 women I am very close to who have all reported mostly good sexual experiences…
I apologise to anyone who now finds this thread tmi & a touch too weird… If the above does suggest I am “lucky”, other life experiences more than offset that.