I think that to some degree you discount the existence of human nature in someone that commits a sin that is natural to who and what they are.
Who and what they are is a sinner. Yep, they cannot help their sin...but that doesn't excuse it...it only means that we should be understanding of the sin. It doesn't lessen the actual sin, however. I can't help but sing like crap...but I admit it, and I know I can't, and I won't claim otherwise.
no matter how rare, uncommon, or undesirable by religious or moral standards, feeling cannot be prevented. so there is no point in morally judging it.
Sure there is: I judge it as sin. I don't go out into the screams making a fuss of it, but when it comes up, and someone says it's perfectly okay, I tell them that it's not. Defining sin, and defending it AS sin, is perfectly reasonable, even if the sin is something the person can't do much about.
you have broken a rule without MEANING to. the point of sin is to repent because you did something bad and KNEW it was bad - a law of morals. and if you didn't know it was bad, you'd know you weren't supposed to DO it again. but you can't make that change when your crime was a feeling!
Breaking a rule without meaning to is a mistake. When you make a mistake, you apologize, and acknowledge it as a mistake. Yes, we are crippled by sin...we cannot hide from it...but it doesn't matter. Technically, we can avoid it...but we're so remarkably dirty with sin that there's just no plausible way for us to get past it on our own. That doesn't make the sin less sinful.
my argument raises the question of whether to FEEL something can really be construed as sin when you are whoever you are and have experienced whatever you experienced and the result, at a certain point in time and place - is to look at someone of the same sex or someone else's marriage, and feel love.
You could say "Is it wrong to look at someone being unjustly killed when you are whoever you are and have experienced whatever you experienced and, as a result, feel happiness?" I'd say, yeah, taking happiness in some form of unfair killing is probably a sin...it's cruel, in a way. I think the problem here may be that when people hear the world "love," all of a sudden normal rules don't apply...it's this incredibly magical thing that cannot be "messed" with in any way. Love can do no wrong, basically, is the attitude I run into so often.
he used a format that wasn't exactly perfect.
Hmmm, I'd say that perhaps it's we that are not perfect here. The way Christianty is taught seems pretty consistent with things to me...assuming we don't have "followers" ramming it down people's throats, it's usually taught quite well.
while i recognize why god could say that homosexuality was sin ... i can't be entirely sure for various reasons. and my resulting feeling is that you cannot help EMOTION. so perhaps it's a sin to lie down with another man ... but to love him romantically? perhaps not. dunno.
Well, if we're all reasonable about this, The Bible is quite clear on homosexual sex. Like, really clear. We're talkin' one step down from being a commandment.
therefore i think it's perfectly plausible, being human, to recognize that people of the same sex can love each other just as legitimately as those of the opposite. that people of different races can, that people of vastly different ages can. one might argue a 9 yr old can't know what romantic love is but 9 yr olds have been married off and loved their spouse in ages gone. etc.
An interracial love is quite different. God created us to go together a certain way...and being of a different race does not conflict with that. And yeah, perhaps some 9 year olds can feel love. It's hard to say. I'd imagine that their love is a completely different kind, however. If you want to get really technical, isn't it possible for a human to romantically love an animal, genuinely? Can't a 98 year old man fall in love with a 6 year old girl romantically? It's probably happened before.
It's all about the definition of love. If love is defined only by the person who claims they are feeling it, than those relationships that cross age/species/gender barriers can be seen as about real love, but I'd be skeptical to say so. Like I said, we just don't know, and as such, I don't think we're gonna get anywhere with it.
there are full blown homosexual relationships that have spanned longer and truer and been just as if not more full of love and care and respect and all those things you mentioned as being necessary to love - between two men or women and they were certainly purer and sweeter and truer than what may happen between any random heterosexual romance you may pick.
These are all things you cannot measure. Homosexual love, for all we know, could be a perverted form (and no, perverted does not mean I'm calling them perverts in the way most people use the word...the word has a broader meaning than that) of brotherly/friendly affection. That would not surprise me in the least.
wow. umm, why not? muslims, hindis, catholics believe in entirely different gods and i do believe would be quite offended if it was assumed that not believing in the christian god meant they didn't know what "love" was or that it's meaning wasn't entirely the same as yours.
Ummm, I said "God," not "Jesus" or "the Christian God." Just "God," meaning any Higher Power that created this universe with purpose, basically.
my point is that 1) a feeling cannot be helped 2) you can stop the action, but not the feeling. you can try, but it won't really get you anywhere. 3) and yes, you can also know it's wrong. great if it's wrong and you know it!
where you and i disagree is that #3 would apply to homosexuality and I am leaning toward it NOT being wrong so for me it's ok to say you've committed no crime and for you it's not and I must be trying to forgive something that shouldn't be forgiven.
1) Sinning cannot be helped either...still sin. A feeling can be a sin regardless of whether or not it can be reasonably helped (technically, I imagine it can all be helped).
2) Ditto.
3) Indeed.
pining is not a sin.
but regardless, thats true of anyone who wants someone they cannot have. i meant - what if he goes on living his life but knows he loves that woman? that doesn't mean he can't go on, meet someone else, get married, and have kids and deeply love his family and new partner. and he can still love both women till he day he dies and be content with the life he built though wish that he might have had something with the forbidden woman. i don't see any real hurt there. unless of course he mistreats his new wife or neglects he and his family because he always regrets and remains bitter about the first woman, etc etc.
I don't think it's reasonably possible to love another woman away from your wife without sinning. That's LOVE going to another woman other than your wife...that hurts her, without a doubt. There's just no way around that...she's hurt by it, even if she doesn't know about it (and if she doesn't, that's pretty dishonest). If she does know about it...well, good luck finding a woman that doesn't mind being married to a man who loves someone else.
And no, pining is not a sin, but seeing as how it can easily lead to idleness and a lack of dilligence, it can be. People have indeed wasted away significant parts of their lives on such things. Wanting to be with someone by itself is not a bad thing...but it can lead to other bad things as quick as a whip.
this totally cracked me up and made me wonder if you read back over what you wrote. if god's omnipotent he could most definitely have done this, esp according to your own beliefs.
Uh, no.
God cannot do absolutely anything. He cannot do evil things, for one. It's like that whole "can he make a rock so big that he cannot lift it?" question. He cannot do absolutely anything. One thing He cannot do is create other beings as perfect as He is. If he could create perfect beings, they'd be God as well, basically.
Anyway, even aside from that, creating us as imperfect was the only logical way to go anyway. We have to be sinful to achieve our true beauty, and see God's love and mercy. If you're born into a perfect place, like Eden, you're essentially a spoiled brat...the child of some rich parents, who, despite having so much, knows no gratitude.
if he never touches another man in that manner again, he is not ACTING on a homosexual relationship. it takes TWO to have one.
I don't think action is at all limited to physical movement. Love isn't all about buying flowers, either. You can act with your mind.
and the other is unaware, and he never acts on this love - if he never declares it or expresses it - it is not a homosexual relationship.
Agreed, it is not a relationship...it's a desire.
your logic implies to DESIRE is to act. and once again - you cannot STOP feeling. feeling is not an action.what you do because of your feeligns IS.
You cannot stop sinning. I cannot stop myself from, perhaps, laughing when someone falls down and hurts themselves, even if they become offended by it.
but i have also agreed with you that the point to there being rules and our following them is to ATTEMPT to cease sinning - however impossible that is or inevitable it is that we'll continue to commit them.
Hmmm, perhaps I'm misunderstanding this, but are you saying that it's not sin because we can't help it, and we can't correct it? We have to be able to fix it for it to be sin?
It is interesting that with all these "unknowns" and "impossibles" and "unsure" and "hard to says" - which appear in all your other posts as well, how your arguments work so hard to support the answer you've already come to.
That's not quite far...you've had your shares of "I guess"s and "dunno"s.
Perhaps I'm incorrect and you believe in him because you found your own proofs and recognized that is why he exists, not because others said so and that's how you were raised. I don't mean to offend you, my question, also.
I was raised as a Christian. For awhile, I was interested in it. After my parents got divorced, I didn't think about God at all, at least not that I can remember. I went through a very bad period. I was "reminded" of Him at a youth retreat, and had a renewed faith in Him. From that point forward, I took more interest in my religion. I read Bertrand Russell's "Why I Am Not a Christian," and over the last couple of years, I've spent dozens of hours on discussions like this. I do not shy away from challenges to my ideals, and I am not hesitant to read things I don't agree with.
I believe in God. I have no doubt of it. I have some doubts about the SPECIFIC God I believe in sometimes, but apart from finding the existence of some God to be completely inevitable (I cannot find any way around it), I also find this God, the Christian God, to be the one that, far and away, makes the most sense to me.
my conclusion is that the nature of homosexuality - to love another man - is not a sin.
Granted, our conversation is a valid one: is just feeling the urge to act actually sin? However, we are ignoring the fact that it's almost never that simple...there's almost always lust, and fairly often, action, involved with this feeling. So, technically, we're arguing the bare basics of it all...but realistically, feeling those feelings leads to sin quite directly anyway.
either way, i wish it weren't a sin because I don't think that same sex LOVE is a sin. to love and not be able to act on it is horrible. it's mighty tough, sin or not , to be homosexual in this world as it is.
What if I get angry all the time? What if I just can't help it? Sure, I don't go on a rampage and actually become physically violent because of it, but I still get angry. Wouldn't you call that a problem of mine? A flaw? A flaw that people should have some sympathy for, granted, but still a flaw.
And yes, it is tough. Homosexuality has been far too singled out (at times, by myself as well...which I regret) as somehow a sin that deserves special attention. This is likely because it is a perversion (again, I mean the word in a technical sense here...not the typical sense) of something that is built so rawly into us: sex. Sex is something we all take seriously. It's sacred, really. It's the ultimate expression of Love between us...and Love is what God is all about. I think that has something to do with it...I think it's also one of the reasons people are more sensitive about sex on TV and such, than they are about violence.
Intwesting, intwesting, intwesting.
I'm glad we're having this conversation. As you may have noticed (or not), I've learned a few things here, and feel that I've corrected a few flaws here or there in my thinking. For that, I'm glad.