hm.
I type that as I consider getting knee- or neck-deep into this topic from work. Procrastination is a factor, of course, so this reply may or may not become an expansive waste of time.
TLDR (assuming I add more): If someone can speak to their issues with whatever, well cool. I can accept it. If not, and they just blow it off then that gets under my skin.
Or it can.
I'm being kind of vague I think. That may be intentional as I'm not sure how to pointedly express these thoughts. Partly, that may be because I've never really thought about it. Mostly, it's a reactive experience and of the moment.
It bothers me when someone is dismissive of something I love (be it movies, music, art, a rotting chunk of wood, whatever) on a superficial level. I mean, I usually judge things with a
relative kind of view. Like, what was the aim? Was it too high? Then maybe that effort is worthy of praise. Was it by the numbers and just satisfactory? That might get a lower opinion from me. If a movie reaches me on such a level that I "love" it or that it stirs some weird deep well of emotion within me, then obviously I'd want to share ...experience(?) with others. Hopefully that gets shared with others that I actually care about. More, I suppose I mean others that I can
trust to not ignorantly brush off whatever I'm trying to bring their attention to. Worst case, I can be OK to share a movie experience with anonymous like-minded individuals in a forum. *cough*. In a perfect world, if someone does not pick up on the vibe I seem to be sensitive to, then that someone would at least be able to
recognize that vibe, critique their viewing experience, and provide some logical reason for NOT feeling whatever it was that I felt. That's cool. Respectable. If, however, that someone just throws out a, "Well that sucked!" and nothing more, then yeah. I'd probably leave nails under their tires one day long into the future to help blur motive.
If someone can at least give it the respect I feel it deserves, then that's all I can really ask. I don't ask that of others very often though as I'm pretty sure that's not going to happen. And I don't want to put that out to the universe and be left hanging. Especially by someone I assumed would pick up what I'm offering. Huh. Thinking on this topic, I'm pretty sure I've done exactly this to a friend recently with a viewing of
Parasite. I completely see and appreciate the reality that I'm probably a hypocrite in this!
Anyway.
I've posted two replies in this forum over the years, with the second basically a repeat of the first. I just forgot I had already shared the story. I won't repeat it a third time, but I'll reference it again! I fell in love with
Dune way back in like 4th or 5th grade. Years later, I was with dad and his family looking for movies to rent. I pushed
Dune. I knew he would respect it. At that time I was probably 14. He was the only one that stayed up to finish it. I knew he was as absorbed as I was. I knew he was seeing words within words,
as I did. when the movie ended and the credits started to roll, he turned to me, paused, and guffawed out a sarcastic, "Giant space worms!?" or something as mocking. My heart was broken lol.
You can find the full story somewhere buried here in a MOFO thread if you want the director's cut.
Needless to say, that firmly sealed shut a door that I was hopeful would be opened. To share something with "dad" in an agreed upon respect. Right. Don't get me wrong lol. There were some pretty major issues already wedged between us at that time. His reaction to that movie just put an end to me making any more efforts on that front.
So, yeah. Movies can trigger some deep **** in me. I don't expect others to be as drawn in on the notes that I catch. Would be nice though.
To the OP, I'm note sure I've been turned off from a movie by someone else stating some superficial observation such as the hair styling. I have caught observations like that, myself, and while I do cringe when those scenes appear, I don't think that awareness ruins the movie for me. An example I can think of is in
The Matrix when Cypher mentions the "...image translators FOR the construct." to Neo. I HATE that he stressed the word "for" instead of "the construct." It changes the whole logic of that sentence (side note, I've made this complaint more than once in these forums too). My point, there, is that even with that annoying line, I can forgive it for the sake of the movie and what it was for sci-fi overall at the time of its release. I'm OK with it. I'm come to peace with it.
Too bad I can't as easily forgive and find peace with "friends."