First of all, your English is the strangest I've ever seen. As if an alien spoke English... Wait! You extraterrestrial spy! Hands up! I mean... you've got no hands... Tentacles up!!! You're under arrest! Crap, I only have one pair of handcuffs, and you've got 8 tentacles. This is not gonna end well.
We've already established you are an alien from other spaces. No point in trying to hide it anymore
you get an entire species wrong
Yes, this is quite an abstract idea. You don't see people marrying a pornstar every day. However, this is kinda the point. You just place yourself in this theoretical situation and ponder what you would do. Something like... what would I do if reso said she loved me. I wonder...
fu fu, keep dreaming... :3
Same here, but sadly marriage is required in a wide array of situations in my country. First of all, all things that have to do with inheritance. If you're not an official part of the family, you will have a hard time getting anything. Another, if you're not a part of the family, you won't be able to visit a person in the hospital. Many other inconveniences like this.
basically just the same, tho' without inheritance or administration stuff. that sound complicated tbh.
well, marriage is still a social necessity, strict religious implication (and pressure). i believe living a bachelor's life is still a distinct social phenomenon here.
I feel a strong urge to place this quote in my signature. I have to resist it! I have to!
welcome to our resistance. together we prevail! let's change the world!
I know, right? This is something I have a hard time understanding. Asian people (or at least the Asian people I have in mind) seem to be the most selfless individuals in the world. Always concerned about the well-being of others, to the point they put the happiness of others over their own. This is toxic to me. I don't care about society's opinion. They do.
yeah, i think it not special to us but we migh get it to the extreme. there a lot contradictions here and there ofc. sometimes it can be justifiable, i mean for creating the fake "harmonious" life. and i don't complain because i condemn certain egoism or reckless behavior. but the far it goes, sometimes i doubt myself if it just better to live and die an ignorant life like everyone else.
If you grow up with more or less traditional ideas in mind, and the idea of monogamy is the leading part of a relationship to you, it's simply hard to accept your partner is going to have sex with somebody else, as a part of their work or not. Even if it's not considered cheating by either of the partners, the preconceived notions of a relationship get in the way.
well maybe im on the state where i see sex is something that can be a trade of, commodity(?) --though it very borderline with exploitation, so not a prostitution-like where rich old man creeping vulnerable young girls. that just no.
i mean if the guy get paid to commit the act so [s]her wife can pay her netflix subscription[/s] to bring the bread to the table. well i know it sounds weirdly radical, but as part of commitment goes, as long as it is "professionally done" not adultery aka something without both sides concern. but this kind of stuff did demand some kind of compensation for the wife, maybe. well, by theory. hmmm.
well to consider it may fruitful and justifiable, financially, to some extent. especially if the wife not working as well. i can imagine the dinner conversation can be so cute. "honey, today i have some funny accident at the workplace.." i awh, my creepy imagination, my rotten brain.
but im not sure it can be considered long term employment. i mean how about the couple decide to have kids. does this job really have future in the first place?
Yeah, pigeonholing your entire worldview as simply left or right seems reductive, to say the least. Anyway, I'm quite liberal/progressive when it comes to other people's lives, and traditional when it comes to my own. I'm not conservative, though. F*ck marriage! F*ck children! Well, not literally!!! What I'm trying to say is, I'm not trying to enforce my beliefs on anybody else, and don't think them superior. I just want that and that, but more power to you if you want something else! You can laugh, you can cry, you can express yourself, but please, don't hurt anybody!
can't agree more.
but unfortunately, the whole world still full of the deluded extremist, the fundamentalist, the far [insert], that kind of stuff. a sad world :/
idk if this was an important phase of humankind progress or just we just doomed to self destruct ourselves, in the end.
Yes, it's just that attitude that I find bewildering. Or rather, I find the idea of getting close to such a person bewildering. I watch porn. I respect sex workers. After all, they fulfill our fantasies. But I don't want to mix fantasies and reality if it's outside the loving nest of a relationship. If somebody chooses a job like that, it's just a mentality too far away from my own.
yeah. it kind of different world, mentally.
Yeah, I guess most women do it for money. Like, the money female pornstars get in Japan is quite crazy. On the other hand, male pornstars earn one-fifth of that if not less! Where's your equalism now?!
right? is it because basically you paid for the actress more? porn market needs more demand from straight-female audience!
oh wait..
But it's not as easy as that. Hunters tout young girls and try to lure them into porn. You're gonna be a star. You'll get a lot of money. Young women are gullible. Such girls might come from troubled families, or quite contrary, come from good families but never had enough attention from their parents. Plenty of reasons.
yeah, some **** can go existential, even with individuals that born with privilege.
But still... I respect people who keep their purity despite the odds.
i can't really speak on behalf of other people. if they are adults, that their decision, whatever it is. i understand to think girls that keep their purity against the odd of life, respectable in a way but i don't necessarily to always agree with. each person has a different capacity for perceiving life. if life realy push me into that territory, maybe i'll not think twice..
well,in the end, i guess im just quiet nihilistic regard. "does it really matter?" kind of thing. but again it's easy speaking, theoretically, armchair-wise.
It's interesting you don't see a problem with a husband who has sex with other women as long as he... doesn't get too popular. Is it the social pressure of other people finding out?
more like social pressure. if only people that finding out and can mind their own business. i can only see that unlikely scenario.
but i guess it different in Japan, if the couple lived in the big city, let's say a distant relationships with their family.
How do you approach him having sex with others? Do you separate his work life and his personal life? Do you think him having sex with other girls doesn't matter if it's only his job? Or maybe it doesn't matter if there's no love?
again, i think i can compartmentalize, so i hope he can too [if]
What if he has sex with other women outside work, but there is no love? How do you feel about open relationships?
im actually not condone it. that just lazy adultery to me, even if there is no love. that break the commitment. if only he tells me first, together we can compromise that and...
I'm considering one can accept polyamorous relationships only with the right partners at the right time. if each party involves fine with, then.
but I can only think for now that has any state or form of relationship just hazle my life. in the end, I'm afraid of any kind of commitment that binds me. do you really picture to life with the same person(s) in your lifetime? I'm not sure myself.
idk, I may idealist right now. myself ten years ago won't recognize me, myself ten years from now will just laugh at this young rascal, or cry loud on her. and don't tell my mum I'm cuddling with both gender
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