What can I say after reading all these great comments? I think I'll give my negatives that might help finding positives.
I've searched about very different perspectives over the years, like Yoda said it's very useful, but you have to do it properly. My father thought me many lessons, that's why I disagree with him all the time. He kept saying: "What is truth you are always talking about?" I thought he was just trying to be smart. I don't like to read, I just can't read, I'm ashamed to say that, I know many books that would totally blow my hair back but I don't have the willpower to read them. I once searched about Marcus Aurelius and I found a quotation that changed my life: Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.
After that I started to understand what my father was trying to tell me, and I started questioning everything I thought was trued, and I entered in a world of over-thinking and existentialism. I searched about many-many philosophies and religions, gurus and masters, many forms of meditation, and I fond Alan Watts, a very articular, intelligent zen master that somehow had the answer to everything, and what a elegant answer it was, he made some points which I couldn't disagree with, I still can't, but the problem is/was that he was driving me to the opposite direction his teaching were suppose to, not to depression, well I don't know what depression is, the foundation of his teaching and Taoism is that everything implies something else, black implies white, dying implies living, without unhappiness you don't know happiness, so I don't know if I know depression, maybe I am depressed.
What we all want is relevance, be significant, be connected, that's why we seek a partner, is not just for sexual pleasure, reproduction, there is nothing that completes more another human being that the devotion some else gives you by trusting there only single living experience by spending it on there side. You can romanticize whatever you want, but after a certain age, being alone is not a good thing mentally, because this idea is deeply rooted in our society.
I think we should find what gives us bliss, might be painting, might be fishing or any other thing. For instance, I thought I would like to fish, so I went fishing with some friends, all night long, negative temperature and I found that I hate fishing, so I have to find something else, might be agriculture. The reason I like movies is because I like to see other peoples situations and dilemmas. In the movie Bruce Almighty, Morgan Freeman representing God said: People underestimate the benefit of good old manual labor. There's freedom in it. Some of the happiest people in the world go home smelling to high heaven at the end of the day.
The amount of people that find bliss on this situation is incredible, is the majority, but you have to regard your job as something you like to do, like I regard mine. Most people enjoy there cold beer and football talk in some pub after a hard day working while there wife is cooking dinner, and because she cooked dinner while he was drinking now she can choose the TV channel. People find bliss and enjoyment in the smallest things in life. Today's morning I was fixing my car front bumper, I ended up thinking I saved fifty bucks and I was happy, not because of the money, because I was able to be useful, because of the challenge. I don't know if I can help you, because to help you I have to help myself, I think I believe you find bliss in the smallest things in life, by not asking much, being simple, but some people might disagree, thinking you have to have things and search for more, be ambitious. Who knows? I think people nowadays have more doubts then never.
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