I make my last statement with a certain smugness of self-satisfaction because on some level it makes me feel like I'm better than the rest of you (when in reality a person's worth is hardly determined by whether they use an ignore setting on a social media discussion board)!
How do we be good people?
That was a really interesting quote. Putting someone on ignore does feel to me like turning my back on them.
Why do I always feel compelled to tell the absolute truth - it makes me appear so inferior.
(Now I'm just "fishing for compliments" to boost my self esteem.)
...Damn! Did it again! But feel that making it a parenthetical sub-statement will somehow lessen the blow!
(Now I'm just "fishing for compliments" to boost my self esteem.)
...Damn! Did it again! But feel that making it a parenthetical sub-statement will somehow lessen the blow!
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Stoic quotes, coloring books, crayons, notepad, anything you need to bring to our therapy session.
I'm not refusing to support them period. But I don't have to prove anything to you. You seem to want me to do it your way. I'm going to do it my way.
Honestly saying you've done nothing wrong shows a great lack of self-awareness. You know you're not perfect, no one is. We alldo things that are wrong. I've wronged you, and I am sorry for it, but you won't acknowledge the same.
I won't acknowledge having "wronged" you, because I genuinely don't know what you're talking about. So help me out by providing me with evidence to support your claim instead of just assuming that I won't accept your argument.
Here, I'll help you out. Here is a summary of the negative interactions that have occurred between us, as I recall them. I've provided links as well. If I've forgotten something, like another incident, fill me in.
1. In my movie log, you misunderstood something I said about There Will Be Blood. You then insinuated that I am incapable of recognizing "quality" in movies that I hate. I explained that I can admire certain aspects of any film, but quality as it relates to art is subjective. This then set you off on a tirade where you said "It honestly feels like you're not even speaking English. I can't understand. Quality is by definition objective. If it isn't measurable, then it isn't quality." Since I don't appreciate being talked to like I'm stupid, I responded by telling you to take your condescension elsewhere.
2. Later, and without any provocation, you came into my thread again and said that I am a plebian with horrible taste and no appreciation for art. I did not respond to your posts - though after seeing your "TarkovskyBegmanGodard" hashtag, I was tempted to point out that I am, in fact, an admirer of Bergman (since you think your appreciation of him and other such directors makes you superior).
3. You created a thread called Content Doesn't Matter. In your opening post, you said "I know that quality is subjective" and I called you out on it. This re-ignited the argument from incident #1, during which you accused me of being "dishonest" and provided nothing to support that accusation.
4. In the Is Movie Forums DYING? thread, you said (to Iro) "Maybe you'll actually be a decent person some day... maybe you will come to your senses and start being a half decent person as unlikely as that may be." That's a really crappy thing to say to somebody and I told you as much. You then lashed out at me for not "minding my own business" despite the fact that I was responding to a public post, as is my right to do and I told you as much. You then supposedly put me on ignore.
5. Pretty much immediately afterwards, you created this thread and put my name in a mention, thus resulting in me getting a notification. You apologized for past transgressions, but then transgressed again by calling me a liar - again with nothing to support that accusation. This resulted in our current argument.
So tell me when and where in all of that did I wrong you or lie to you.
I really had the impression you were a self professing postmodernist. You certainly sound like one when you say things like, "Quality is subjective." Basically postmodernism is the idea that there is no absolute truth, and all truth is relative.
The other question I wanted you to answer in supporting what I said was the following:
So if I call you a liar it's wrong, but if you call me one it's okay?
So by calling you a liar, I'm still berating you, therefore my apology isn't genuine?
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My goodness, Miss Vicky. You certainly come armed and dangerous with your ammunition and fact checking.
I would wonder if maybe you are simply holding onto grudges very strongly with this?
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'Cause I need this to be a happy place and no longer a weird, disturbing, dark cesspool.
You know, I've always liked you SC even though I've never felt close to you. And you are a bit strange to me, but also very interesting. I kind of think of you as a mascot for this forum. I love how you make fun creative threads and get things going.
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That was a really interesting quote. Putting someone on ignore does feel to me like turning my back on them.
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Yeah, when you make accusations against other people, you kind of do have to prove it. That's not my way, that's more like society's way.
@Zotis
You’re fine to have your own beliefs about things... but good grief. Your beliefs place a lot of pressure and burden on you, it seems.
You’re fine to have your own beliefs about things... but good grief. Your beliefs place a lot of pressure and burden on you, it seems.
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I don't have to prove anything. Society means less than nothing to me.
This is the sort of thing that someone who can't prove their accusations says, because the accusations were fabricated in the first place. Can't say I'm surprised, though.
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I listen to a lot of Tony Robbins lol.
"Good" is subjective but you definitely are responsible for your own suffering, which is based off your definition of good. Could be an influence of society, or just how you define things. Just figure out what positive means to you and how it affects you, and everything around you...stay true to that in the most unselfish way possible.
"Good" is subjective but you definitely are responsible for your own suffering, which is based off your definition of good. Could be an influence of society, or just how you define things. Just figure out what positive means to you and how it affects you, and everything around you...stay true to that in the most unselfish way possible.
“If it is not right do not do it; if it is not true do not say it.”
“Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?”
“Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?”
I don't have to prove anything. Society means less than nothing to me.
This is the sort of thing that someone who can't prove their accusations says, because the accusations were fabricated in the first place. Can't say I'm surprised, though.
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Zoltis I’ve had a few interactions with you and safe to say you have a lot to work on but I want to see you improve. Now I recommend buying my book, it’s a pyramid scheme, very effective but doesn’t come cheap, private message me for details. Also miss Vicky is a swell gal - you’ll understand one day that she has helped you in your journey....the journey to complete the steps of my pyramid scheme of success!
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Well, that is precisely what I'm grappling with, and I find it extremely difficult. I think that a lot of people, not just here but everywhere in my life, are acting like I should be able to completely reverse behaviour patterns I've had for decades instantaniously with zero effort. Okay, that is an exaggeration to illustrate point. I believe that's close to true, but I know it's not exactly true.
As always, The Simpsons has an especially funny and perceptive take that I think about a lot:
I'm so infinitely frustrated that I can't even describe it with words. I'm so hopelessly lost, and I don't even know why I don't just cry out to God and obey him in everything. But I don't believe in free will, and I understand that life is a process. In all my mistakes God is teaching me and leading me gradually closer to him. So, I am trying to submit to the process, to surrender my will to God.
I did appreciate the post comment you sent me. I don't know what to do. My goal was to apologize and that's all. Why do I know suddenly have to defend my apology? I am done.
If Vicky doesn't want to accept it, and wants to say she does nothing wrong despite priding herself in being the resident bitch, that's fine too. I don't mind. The beauty of forgiving people is they don't have to do anything to deserve it or feel they need it.
So no, I won't defend myself anymore as if I'm on trial. I will be judged by God alone, and when we all die then we'll all know who was right and who was wrong.
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