Zotis

I agree it's the way you talk, and I accept the implication of that, which is that you don't necessarily mean anything by it. But I think that's kind of the point: there's a lot of these tussles, as we've discussed before, which clearly points to either a) malice or b) lots of habits that are easily construed as malice. I believe/accept it's the latter, which is why I think this is potentially instructive.

Thank you for the measured response, regardless.

Right, but since you went on to explain why you disagreed anyway, what does it add too that? My question is phrased deliberately: it's not "what does this mean?" but "what does this add?" Check out the post in question again. Remove the "So what?" Doesn't that transform it into a completely substantive, constructive response that makes exactly the same point?

That wasn't exactly rhetorical, BTW. I'd genuinely like to know what you feel "So what?" adds other than increasing the potential of escalation and conflict.

I think the question applies regardless of outcome, no?