View Full Version : to those following my progress with amy
just so anyone that cares knows what happened, i got an email this morning.
"Ian,
Thank you for the necklace. But I am sorry, because I cannot return those feelings that you obviously feel for me. Please do not hate me for this, but beleive me when I say that it wouldnt work out at all. I'm sorry if you feel like I led you on, but I have never felt anything more for you than friendship.
I still think we can be friends, but it will take time.
Amy"
and so, i'm not in a good place right now
TheMatrix
10-02-04, 08:09 PM
hey man get over it. I mean she said it won't work so you have one more thing scratched off your list and you can go get involved with other women. You always gotta think on the brightside of life.
clearly, you didn't follow everything, i was absolutly in love with amy, i suck at being with girls, and Amy was the last thing on my "list", i have no goals or ambitions left, nothing to look forward to
TheMatrix
10-02-04, 08:17 PM
well then make new goals. get over some twit who was stupid enough to turn you down or do it in the way she did. I am assuming it was email. If it was direct my bad. Don't get down on yourself over this kinda stuff movie on go with the flow. that has kept me alive for these years that i have been alive.
clearly, you didn't follow everything, i was absolutly in love with amy, i suck at being with girls, and Amy was the last thing on my "list", i have no goals or ambitions left, nothing to look forward to
Alright. I'm gonna sound like an ******* here, but don't be such a drama queen about the whole thing. If you thought a girl you never went on a date with was your only reason for living then you need to take a step outside your door, take in some fresh air and re-evaluate everything in your life.
You aren't a pathetic person but what you just said is one of the most pathetic things I've ever read. Have some balls and live.
TheMatrix
10-02-04, 08:24 PM
This should be the official support MikeMyers thread. Clearly he's not going to get over things with out getting em out in the open so lets give him advice and help him.
I agree you need some support sir MikeMyers, but what you don't need is people cuddling you and sweet talking you with "there theres". **** happens, scrap it off your shoe and keep walking, don't stop and cry about it.
i don't want ur sympathy, but there were some people that were wondering how things were going with amy, this was just to keep them informed. but when you've been rejected by someone so special to you, let me know if it hurts
r3port3r66
10-02-04, 09:43 PM
OK M_m, there is no hurt worse than a beautiful young girl breaking your heart. It makes you feel like you are not handsome, like you have nothing to offer; like she's looking for someone that...well is not you! Perhaps you think she likes someone else, maybe the cutest guy in your class--you know the one guy that has all the girls swooning.
OK you're 14. But that doesn't mean that you haven't any good qualities. Look, you're smart, handsome and sentimental. Those are wonderful qualities! Really! In the adult world, as you get older, women LOVE all those qualities you have!
Just because Amy can't see the real you now, doesn't mean she won't learn her lesson in the future! Trust me M_m, a girl that you really like in the future will see how special you are and embrace that! For now, experience the cold, hard reality of a crush and understand the true meaning of a crush.
From now on you'll have a new way of approaching those you like, and perhaps you might relish the qualities you possess and use them to get the girl of your dreams. Amy may be the girl of your dreams for now, but look, there is another girl out there that will accept you and spend time with you. Relationships are all about getting to know each other. If someone doesn't want to get to know the real you then let some other fortunate girl, who's interested, enjoy that part of you. Don't fret, there is a girl for you. You just haven't met her yet!
AboveTheClouds
10-02-04, 11:02 PM
Dude.... Go throw on some Agathodaimon and go nuts! F**k her, it's her loss.
Look, you're smart, handsome and sentimental.
hardly, i'm too smart for my own good, handsome, yeah right
Look, you're smart, handsome and sentimental. Those are wonderful qualities! Really! In the adult world, as you get older, women LOVE all those qualities you have!
He speaks the truth. Amy hasn't matured yet and is probably doing what all teenaged girls do, go after the hotty. Believe me, when you get older you will see that looks are only the smallest part of a relationship. My boyfriend is not the most handsome guy I have ever been with, but I love him for who he is inside. Once I had seen him for who he is inside, now I think he is the most attractive guy.
Amy isn't that shallow, it's just that even the strongest magnet can't attract wood
Monkeypunch
10-03-04, 12:41 AM
Dude, seriously, DON'T do this to yourself. If I might borrow a quote from my friend therese, who got it from someone I'll be damned if I know who...
"if you are in love with someone who does not love you back, you may be using your tears to drown out the love from others."
Thanks for the update. Trust me the pain your feeling now is a part of life and no matter how bad it is now you will feel better, cause you are only 14 (? I think) and there will be more girls out there for you. It's not a belief, it's a reality that people change as they get older and you will too, those couples in high school who say they will be in love forever don't usually end up getting married, because time changes all things.
I know it would be real hard to remain friends, but you gotta give it a go to get some closure or this could bother you for longer than it needs to and who knows she could change her mind :), cause maybe she just never considered you that way before but time will tell.
you need to set some goals dude and if you can't think of any then start a hobby or something; like sport or art or music. Just some friendly advice, keep on keeping on.
Don't worry man, same thing happened to me not so long ago, but I got over it. Hell, now I even look back and think "man was i ever acting stupid and childish" She doesn't like you, well there's always a chance that 1 out of about 3.5 billion women on this planet will. I'm 14, same as you, so i know how you feel. One thing tho, wtf was that she "broke up" if you wanna call it that or rejected you over email? Thats pathetic imho.
AboveTheClouds
10-03-04, 02:05 AM
I agree with Nitzer... My Ex didn't have the "balls" to dump me in person. So instead she got her friend to do it for her.. Over MSN......
i don't want ur sympathy, but there were some people that were wondering how things were going with amy, this was just to keep them informed. but when you've been rejected by someone so special to you, let me know if it hurts
I have been rejected, many times. I've even been stood up twice. If you want to talk about being burned...there isn't a burn like one you get when someone says yes then doesn't show.
When I first started off in highschool I was a nerdy kid who spent way too much time playing videogames and watching Jurassic park, was new to Virginia AND I wore glasses bigger than Harry Potter's. I didn't go on my first date until Junior year and didn't have my first real relationship until Senior year (which has been going for two years strong this upcoming Monday:)). I learned early on in high school that you can't let girls get to you simply because anytime I asked a girl out I was shot down.
I dated two girls in highschool. One for a few weeks and one til this very day. And yet when I graduated out of a class 468 strong, full of sports guys and the likes, I got voted Class Heartbreaker. And it wasn't some cruel joke. And I'm not saying this to toot my own horn. I'm telling you because girls will be attracted to you by how you present yourself. There isn't anything hotter than a confident guy. Come Senior year I was an incredibly confident guy. Not because I was some hot guy every girl wanted to have sex with, but because I knew I was the type of guy that would treat a girl with absolute respect and devotion and girls knew I had become that type of guy through the dozens of friendships I made. I was always that guy girls would come to to complain about how poorly their boyfriend was treating them, but would NEVER consider me as a replacement. I was never an eye catcher for girls until Junior/Senior year, which was when I started to believe that I was the man - regardless if the ladies thought I was or not.
I'm not trying to be cocky, I'm just trying to show how a guy can go from being the "weird guy who sits in the corner drawing mazes" (I've been called that) to the guy every girl smiles at by simply changing the way they look at life. My entire demeanor reflected my new confident attitude towards life and people find that quality extremely attractive.
Also, you are 14 and while you may not feel your age and mentioning it may seem like an attack on it, but there is some truth to age discrimination. 14 year old girls only think about one thing; cute guys. If you're not Jonathon Taylor Thomas, you don't exist. By the time you get towards the end of highschool and girls have matured drastically...those guys that weren't attractive before (like I was and like you say you are) start becoming a whole lot more appealing...
As a 14 year old, if you start to look at life like you own the place, you'll be ahead of the game by the time the rest of the girls around you have reached the mental state where factors other than flawless skin take on a huge position when looking for a guy.
I'm sure any mature female on these boards can tell you a strong, confident personality can completely dominate the hottest of competetion.
I got a freaking SMS message on my phone, in which she wrote "i would love to be friends", but then she never calls or nothing. So instead of leaving it like she wanted I started calling her like 2 months later, just to tick her off :p
I have been rejected, many times. I've even been stood up twice. If you want to talk about being burned...there isn't a burn like one you get when someone says yes then doesn't show.
When I first started off in highschool I was a nerdy kid who spent way too much time playing videogames and watching Jurassic park, was new to Virginia AND I wore glasses bigger than Harry Potter's. I didn't go on my first date until Junior year and didn't have my first real relationship until Senior year (which has been going for two years strong this upcoming Monday:)). I learned early on in high school that you can't let girls get to you simply because anytime I asked a girl out I was shot down.
I dated two girls in highschool. One for a few weeks and one til this very day. And yet when I graduated out of a class 468 strong, full of sports guys and the likes, I got voted Class Heartbreaker. And it wasn't some cruel joke. And I'm not saying this to toot my own horn. I'm telling you because girls will be attracted to you by how you present yourself. There isn't anything hotter than a confident guy. Come Senior year I was an incredibly confident guy. Not because I was some hot guy every girl wanted to have sex with, but because I knew I was the type of guy that would treat a girl with absolute respect and devotion and girls knew I had become that type of guy through the dozens of friendships I made. I was always that guy girls would come to to complain about how poorly their boyfriend was treating them, but would NEVER consider me as a replacement. I was never an eye catcher for girls until Junior/Senior year, which was when I started to believe that I was the man - regardless if the ladies thought I was or not.
I'm not trying to be cocky, I'm just trying to show how a guy can go from being the "weird guy who sits in the corner drawing mazes" (I've been called that) to the guy every girl smiles at by simply changing the way they look at life. My entire demeanor reflected my new confident attitude towards life and people find that quality extremely attractive.
Also, you are 14 and while you may not feel your age and mentioning it may seem like an attack on it, but there is some truth to age discrimination. 14 year old girls only think about one thing; cute guys. If you're not Jonathon Taylor Thomas, you don't exist. By the time you get towards the end of highschool and girls have matured drastically...those guys that weren't attractive before (like I was and like you say you are) start becoming a whole lot more appealing...
As a 14 year old, if you start to look at life like you own the place, you'll be ahead of the game by the time the rest of the girls around you have reached the mental state where factors other than flawless skin take on a huge position when looking for a guy.
I'm sure any mature female on these boards can tell you a strong, confident personality can completely dominate the hottest of competetion.
probably the best damn advice i've heard so far, thx OG-
I agree with Nitzer... My Ex didn't have the "balls" to dump me in person. So instead she got her friend to do it for her... Pver MSN......
We live 25 miles apart, and we wouldn't see eachother until school on monday, so it was either by email, or wait 2 days and keep me in anticipation, imho, she was being considerate
probably the best damn advice i've heard so far, thx OG-
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