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Are we all lonely and sad people? That's what this article says .
http://www.independent.co.uk/voices/facebook-instagram-twitter-social-media-makes-sad-lonely-attention-seekers-a7614396.html
Captain Steel
08-19-17, 03:22 AM
It makes me wonder something I've been thinking about for a while - are there any tech-free societies? I don't mean indigenous tribal societies in undeveloped countries that are not technologically up to date, but societies of people who are tech-free by choice?
Also, are there any tech-free resorts or vacation packages where you can essentially go back in time to a pre-smart phone, cell phone, Internet, social media way of life just for a couple weeks to reconnect with nature or be able to meet and talk to people without having to watch them keep looking hypnotically at their cell phone while they're making believe they're listening to even a fraction of what you might be saying?
Exclusively? Nah. Disproportionately? Yeah, probably.
Captain Steel
08-21-17, 01:22 AM
Just saw this commercial on TV (love it)!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9il3s2UD0cw (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FgK8FIh47Ec)
Mr Minio
08-21-17, 01:32 AM
I'm lonely.
Kinda...
Sort of...
You know. I'm not sad, though. Not sad, because I have you, MoFos. <3
Stirchley
08-21-17, 05:11 PM
My marriage is not good so sometimes I am sad. Never lonely though.
Captain Steel
08-21-17, 05:44 PM
Just saw this commercial on TV (love it)!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9il3s2UD0cw (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FgK8FIh47Ec)
I love these grandparents - anyone gets through with a "device" and they'll sic that little doberman on them! :drevil:
Plus: little girl's face at the end!!!
matt72582
11-11-17, 08:34 PM
We can all be lonely together!
:eek:
Mr Minio
11-11-17, 08:47 PM
We can all be lonely together!
:eek: no homo
Mr Minio
11-11-17, 09:22 PM
homo for sure :kiss: Help! He's molesting me!
Guaporense
11-11-17, 09:23 PM
This is not a social network like Facebook is. It's made for people with specific interests that are rather unlikely in general population.
Mr Minio
11-11-17, 09:25 PM
It's made for people with specific interests. Like manga?
Mr Minio
11-11-17, 10:23 PM
like hentai?? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMysDTDqK-k
Guaporense
11-11-17, 10:26 PM
Actually hentai (manga pornography) is very popular in Japan.
Mostly this is a forum for people who like to obssess over old Hollywood movies. While Hollywood is popular among large populations over the world very few people take it seriously.
Mr Minio
11-11-17, 10:36 PM
It is, but pinku eiga is relatively obscure (:O). Many Japanese don't even know what that is.
Stirchley
11-13-17, 04:36 PM
Mostly this is a forum for people who like to obssess over old Hollywood movies.
LOL. Someone should tell Yoda.
Guaporense
11-14-17, 12:25 AM
I said that because I never understood the appeal of Casablanca. My grandmother likes it though.
Loneliness is a warm gun.
Monkeypunch
11-14-17, 10:47 AM
It's funny that anyone would say that. I feel like the internet has made me less lonely. I have pretty serious anxiety about social situations, I can't just go up and talk to people I don't know, and it's sometimes hard to talk to people I do know without some sort of invite. I've made more friends online than I've ever managed to in pre-internet days, and I certainly never had the nerve to go out looking for dates until online dating was a thing. I met my current girlfriend online, and we hit it off so well we now live together. So the internet is a place that brings people together, I'd say. .
It's funny that anyone would say that. I feel like the internet has made me less lonely. I have pretty serious anxiety about social situations, I can't just go up and talk to people I don't know, and it's sometimes hard to talk to people I do know without some sort of invite. I've made more friends online than I've ever managed to in pre-internet days, and I certainly never had the nerve to go out looking for dates until online dating was a thing. I met my current girlfriend online, and we hit it off so well we now live together. So the internet is a place that brings people together, I'd say. .
In your case, it obviously worked out, but the reason that brought you there initially was probably loneliness to begin with.
Most people feel the need the communicate and the " security " and impersonality of the internet allows them to do so.
As far as relationships go, unless you are face to face with some one, and even then, people are pretty much clueless as to how it will all end up.
The internet is not a bad place to connect and communicate with people but it has moved us away from real socializing in general. For specific purposes such as various forums and potential hook ups ( dating sites ), it serves it's purpose,
but, It has created a culture of distant millennials.
Captain Steel
11-14-17, 04:50 PM
This is very topical because just last week Facebook co-creator Sean Parker admitted they intentionally created something they new was addictive and could have potentially harmful long range consequences, but they didn't care because they knew it would make them rich.
“God only knows what it’s doing to our children’s brains.”
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/facebook-sean-parker-human_us_5a0468d8e4b0f76b05c3d65a
Captain Steel
11-14-17, 04:54 PM
Several studies have shown that social media can have harmful effects on mental health, especially in teenagers. A 2017 study conducted by the Royal Society for Public Health, a U.K.-based health charity, found that people who use platforms such as Facebook and Instagram were more likely to have anxiety, depression and sleep issues.
“Social media addiction is thought to affect around 5 percent of young people, with social media being described as more addictive than cigarettes and alcohol,” the study stated. “The platforms that are supposed to help young people connect with each other may actually be fueling a mental health crisis.”
This is very topical because just last week Facebook co-creator Sean Parker admitted they intentionally created something they new was addictive and could have potentially harmful long range consequences, but they didn't care because they knew it would make them rich.
“God only knows what it’s doing to our children’s brains.”
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/facebook-sean-parker-human_us_5a0468d8e4b0f76b05c3d65a
The same as the guys that brought us crack. The ingenuity is in creating something that will always be needed, chemically induced or otherwise, like toilet paper ( well, not in Thailand ).
Payday12
11-15-17, 10:56 PM
I am sure there are some who are lonely and sad but I bet the majority just enjoy reading and posting on these kinds of sites. Just like some kids sit in front of the TV playing video games all day. They are not sad. They just enjoy it.
Captain Steel
11-15-17, 11:07 PM
I am sure there are some who are lonely and sad but I bet the majority just enjoy reading and posting on these kinds of sites. Just like some kids sit in front of the TV playing video games all day. They are not sad. They just enjoy it.
It's enjoyable (seemingly) while you're doing it... but when you're done and look at the time you wasted, you end up feeling like crap... and there's never really even anything to show for it (unlike accomplishments from productive activities).
Very similar to drugs - they feel good when they kick in, but soon leave you craving the high again, feeling terrible if you can't get it, and making you depressed when you realize your life is in a downward spiral of constantly seeking the gratification and trying to escape the feelings of not having your addiction because all you can think about is trying to get the high again (which will be fleeting and the cycle will start all over).
Payday12
11-15-17, 11:31 PM
It's enjoyable (seemingly) while you're doing it... but when you're done and look at the time you wasted, you end up feeling like crap... and there's never really even anything to show for it (unlike accomplishments from productive activities).
You make a good point. But I bet others do it the way I do. In the day time if I have yard work (or any kind of work) I don't even think about getting on the computer till I am done. Or if there is anything I want to do I do it first. After I do the work or what I want to do then and only then I turn on the computer.
Captain Steel
11-15-17, 11:33 PM
You make a good point. But I bet others do it the way I do. In the day time if I have yard work (or any kind of work) I don't even think about getting on the computer till I am done. Or if there is anything I want to do I do it first. After I do the work or what I want to do then and only then I turn on the computer.
Yep. Like anything else, balance and moderation is the key.
Guaporense
11-15-17, 11:52 PM
It's enjoyable (seemingly) while you're doing it... but when you're done and look at the time you wasted, you end up feeling like crap... and there's never really even anything to show for it (unlike accomplishments from productive activities).
Very similar to drugs - they feel good when they kick in, but soon leave you craving the high again, feeling terrible if you can't get it, and making you depressed when you realize your life is in a downward spiral of constantly seeking the gratification and trying to escape the feelings of not having your addiction because all you can think about is trying to get the high again (which will be fleeting and the cycle will start all over).
Well most forms of entertainment feel exactly like that to me.
I guess you feel a greater sense of achievement when you build a city in Sim City or when you watch many Kurosawa movies and feel like you become more "educated" in film.
Guaporense
11-15-17, 11:55 PM
It's funny that anyone would say that. I feel like the internet has made me less lonely. I have pretty serious anxiety about social situations, I can't just go up and talk to people I don't know, and it's sometimes hard to talk to people I do know without some sort of invite.
Indeed. I don't think I feel social anxiety but I feel scared of talking about stuff that I don't know people might take the wrong way. For instance, I never had the courage to talk about the moe stuff I enjoy to close personal friends for a few years and when I did one of my best friends told me I was "weird" and asked when I started consuming that sort of thing when I ceased being "normal".
Captain Steel
11-16-17, 05:47 PM
Well most forms of entertainment feel exactly like that to me.
I guess you feel a greater sense of achievement when you build a city in Sim City or when you watch many Kurosawa movies and feel like you become more "educated" in film.
If I watch a movie at the end of a productive day, it's like a reward, kind of like Payday12 described. But there've been times when I did nothing but watch movies all day - and then I feel like crap afterwards because I didn't balance it with any productive activity.
So, I've decided never to watch 2 movies in one day (unless I'm sick or trapped inside by a storm).
It's enjoyable (seemingly) while you're doing it... but Very similar to drugs - they feel good when they kick in, but soon leave you craving the high again, feeling terrible if you can't get it, and making you depressed when you realize your life is in a downward spiral of constantly seeking the gratification and trying to escape the feelings of not having your addiction because all you can think about is trying to get the high again (which will be fleeting and the cycle will start all over).
Seems to me that you are talking about a very specific drug - the closest would be crack cocaine, then heroin.
But, of course all drugs and addictions are not the same and affect people differently.
It's interesting that the government coined the phrase " recreational drugs " .
Generally speaking, however, it would be easy to differentiate most people that are on meth, cocaine, pcp, ecstasy and marijuana.
I would be hard pressed to find any one with similar feeling just communicating on the internet.
Could the internet become an addiction on it's own, sure, just like any other obsessive compulsive behavior.
I would not call it a sickness, though.
It is just an insidious way for people who have a need to to communicate, to do it from afar.
Mr Minio
11-17-17, 11:09 AM
It's funny that anyone would say that. I feel like the internet has made me less lonely Nowadays we have all that technology developed to connect, yet we are more lonely than ever. The ad says: "Are you connected?" and I answer: "No, I'm disconnected. Disconnected from real world.".
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